Are you responsible for your partner’s happiness? Ever since we were young, it seems like we’ve been groomed to believe that our happiness is dependent on some external thing, person or relationship. This becomes even more apparent when we enter serious relationships or get married. Many of us feel the obligation or sense of duty to please and help our spouse find happiness.
In this episode, we take a deeper look at how attaching your personal happiness to another person can actually create a toxic relationship, and how it’s more important to take ownership of your happiness by looking within. Sometimes, we avoid facing our deeper issues and try to put a band-aid on them by jumping into new relationships or not acknowledging that we need to work on ourselves first.
0:00 Intro
1:13 Welcome banter
3:57 Start of topic
6:00 Why we feel obligated to make our partner happy
10:17 Work on yourself first
12:00 Becoming co-dependent on your spouse
15:49 Giving up control of your happiness
17:54 Avoiding the real issues
19:19 You can’t make someone else happy
23:30 Be empathetic and supportive
27:43 Its ok to not be ok
29:05 Takeaways & lessons learned
How To Be An Adult - Episode 45
Privacy And Boundaries In Marriage - Episode 44
Can Men And Women JUST Be Friends - Episode 43
Would You Relocate To Another Country - Episode 42
Counting Our Blessings - Episode 41
What's Your Love Language - Episode 40
Growing Up With Immigrant Parents - Part 2 - Episode 39
Learning To Be Comfortable In Your Own Skin - Episode 38
Dealing With Holiday Stress - Episode 37
Can External Factors Make Or Break A Relationship - Episode 36
Why Are We Mean To The Ones Closest To Us - Episode 35
Are We Living Under A Microscope? - Episode 34
Halloween Special - Ghost Stories & Paranormal Encounters - Episode 33
Why Does Talking About Death Make Us Uncomfortable - Episode 32
Can You Get Pressured Into Love - Episode 31
Should Marriage Be A Contract That Expires - Episode 30
How Important Is Physical Attraction In Relationships - Episode 29
Finding Love On Reality TV Shows - Episode 28
Giving Gifts In Relationships - Episode 27
Is Your Spouse Overspending - Episode 26
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