85 - The Comparison Trap

Annaliese and Alan piece apart why we compare ourselves to others, what we’re really seeking when we do it, and how to break free from the comparison trap to build a more fulfilling and grounded life. Annaliese unpacks how comparison often feels like it’ll help us get what we need—but instead leaves us feeling dissatisfied. The good news? You can shift that energy into investing in your own life in a way that truly supports you.

You’ll Hear About:

• Comparing “up” vs. comparing “down” – How we measure ourselves against others in different ways and what it reveals about our deeper needs.
• The energy drain of comparison – How you can redirect that mental energy back toward your own decisions, growth, and present experiences.
• The illusion of comparison – How it distorts reality by making you focus on your own struggles while assuming others have it all together.

Tips to Build Satisfaction in Your Life:

• Notice when you compare and turn that focus inward: What is it you truly want and need in this moment? How can you respond to that need with something you already have?
• Ask yourself for advice first—reflect before looking outside for validation.

How to Compare Yourself Less:

1. Recognize how comparing pulls you away from your own life and self-worth, and practice leaning into your own strengths and resilience in times you question yourself.
2. Identify what you’re really seeking (confidence, validation, security) and meet that need with what you have.
3. Practice using comparison for inspiration and encouragement—not judgment.
4. Celebrate your own progress to strengthen confidence and fulfillment.

By shifting your focus back to your own growth, you’ll find greater satisfaction and stability—without needing to measure up to anyone else.

Your Free Coaching Call:

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