#146 When Caregiving Replaces Connection - What No One Warns Stroke Spouses

“He’s still here—but we’re not us anymore.”
That’s what one care partner told me. And she’s not alone.

If your marriage feels muted—like you’re functioning as a caregiver, not a partner—this episode is for you. You’re not imagining the distance. And you’re not the only one wondering how to fix it without making it worse.

What no one tells you is this: caregiver burnout is one of the strongest predictors of divorce after stroke. Especially for younger couples. Especially when the care partner is a spouse. But the breakdown doesn’t happen all at once—it happens quietly, in the spaces no one talks about.

Here’s what we’ll name together:

• Why disconnection doesn’t always mean conflict—it can be quiet and resigned
  
  
• The stages of emotional divorce (and how to spot where you are)
  
  
• What shame, silence, and aphasia hide in stroke recovery
  
  
• Why your partner’s withdrawal might be protection—not rejection
  
  
• How to begin again—through presence, not pressure
  
  

If this hit home—there’s a story I want you to read.
It’s short. Honest. And it might name what you’ve been feeling.
https://lifeaphasiaacademy.co/f/lisa-or-elena

More Resources:

Speak up for yourself after stroke—Take It Back:
https://lifeaphasiaacademy.co/f/take-it-back

3 Reasons Aphasia Progress Never Stops:
https://dolifespeechpathology.com/f/neuroplasticity

Want caregiver tools that protect your identity?
https://lifeaphasiaacademy.co/care-partner-resources

Looking for speech therapy with heart?
https://dolifespeechpathology.com

Want help learning how to be a care partner and maintain yourself? Check out the Collective:
https://dolifespeechpathology.co/collective

Subscribe to our YouTube Channel for weekly episodes:
https://www.youtube.com/@LIFESpeechPathology/videos

Listen on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/listen-for-life-aphasia-podcast/id1621948384

Even the smallest shift matters. Start where you are.