Your Pain Tells The Story of Your Lived Reality

Your Pain Tells The Story of Your Lived Reality

Most of my life, emotional pain meant I was either sinning, in error, or expressing some kind of flaw in my nature.

I learned to see my pain this way through the reactions I received from my parents and culture.  

They routinely responded to my pain with:

- dismissal
- claims that boys don't cry
- shaming of the emotion (why do you feel that way???)
- annoyance at the pain
- sometimes outright rage
- accusation that I feel this way due to some kind of error or sin I've done (what have you done to make yourself feel this way?)

These reactions led me to believe my pain was a shameful, awful thing that I should hide and should try to stop or fix entirely.

I developed deep self-hatred for my pain - because my pain was hated.

I broke through this programming in 2009 when I started to view my pain as the somatic expression of a story - namely the story of what I had been living through.  I had been seeing how my clients pain was telling a story, and it clicked that maybe mine was, too.

Learn in today's episode how pain tells the story of our lived experiences and why this is essential and key to real, lasting healing.


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