As humans, we all have a unique set of perceived limitations. Anytime you try to reach for something beyond those limitations, you will experience a set of challenges that will either keep you where you are or push you to your next level.
In this episode, Kinsey shares about the four core hidden barriers that Gay Hendricks discusses in relation to your Upper Limit which he talks about in his book, ‘The Big Leap’.
At the end of this podcast, you will be able to see where you’re running up against your Upper Limit and how you can stop the pattern of self-sabotaging (even if you don’t think you’re self-sabotaging).
(Reference: The Big Leap, book by Gay Hendricks)
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00:45 One year older and wiser! HAPPY BIRTHDAY, KINSEY! Ready to soak in a more profound level, the gratitude, the joy, and the fulfillment ahead.
02:11 On the other side of that wisdom is a feeling of so much more to learn.
02:21 Then the more that you learn, the more that you realize that there's so much that you don't know.
02:31 Let’s talk about your “upper limit” and the different concepts or methods of this.
02:50 Within the context of an identity crisis, it is the idea of separating from a former version of yourself and stepping into a new one.
03:08 A lot of times when we have to bust through the other side of that, it requires you to also bust through an “upper limit.”
03:23 It's this perceived limitation that is what keeps people stuck.
03:44 As you evolve as an entrepreneur, as a woman, you're going to notice these breakdowns to breakthroughs, and it's all related to these upper limits.
04:01 The book “The Big Leap” by Gay Hendrick, is so good at talking about the “upper limit.”
04:16 This whole concept that we basically self-sabotage because there's this limitation that exists whether it's subconsciously or consciously
04:59 What Gay Hendricks does is actually talk out the four cores of “upper limits”
05:08 One of these is ultimately going to continue to keep you below the limit.
06:15 Constraints are important. They create discipline, they create focus, and create parameters for us.
06:33 The four different types of “upper limits,” will help you think about what is your upper limit.
06:52 A correlation to one of these barriers, he calls them the “hidden barrier,” which is basically an upper limit that you can't necessarily see.
07:27 It'll be helpful for you, once you actually understand and become aware of it, it's so liberating.
07:51 The whole book is about these patterns, what to do, and how to move through them. So go on and read the book.
08:03 The first “hidden barrier” that he talks about, is this barrier that's basically feeling fundamentally flawed.
08:12 It's something that is related to you not feeling capable of doing the thing, or that you're missing something.
08:35 It is the worst thought to have because it just remains an open loop in your brain.
09:08 The other thing that he notes is the related fear that comes with you making a full commitment to living in your full zone of genius that you will likely fail.
10:00 The second barrier that he addresses here is disloyalty and abandonment.
10:27 This is common when people are starting to see their lives as extraordinary, above the average.
11:15 If there's really no acknowledgment of expansion, and you have this idea that if I grow, if I am successful, it means that I'm leaving people behind.
12:05 If it is a very deep-seated or deep-rooted belief in you, it will come up and basically become your limitation.
12:34 The third “hidden barrier” is this belief that more success brings a bigger burden.
13:04 Subconsciously, we actually are very afraid of what that success means or what it can bring.
14:00 This can be a spectrum of things when it comes to the idea of more success means more negative.
14:22 Now, the last and fourth “hidden barrier” is the crime of outshining which is related to outgrowing people in your life.
14:48 This is very common for women because of a potential dynamic in the house.
15:17 This can also come out in other relationships in your life or having this idea of not wanting to feel boastful or too confident.
16:10 You can imagine now that there are parts or potentially parts of these four “hidden barriers” mentioned that are woven within your stories and beliefs.
16:39 Having this ambiguous constraint almost knowing it was there, but not really putting a name to it.
16:49 This should help you see it for what it was, name it, and become aware of the stories and beliefs related to that specific thing.
18:17 Self-sabotaging can happen at the subconscious level because of these upper limits that we may or may not be aware of.
18:45 If you don't learn how to consistently break down to break through, these things will keep coming up, and you won't even know it. That is the most frustrating part.
19:19 It is so powerful when you start to change the way you think, change your stories, change your beliefs, everything unlocks for you.
About the Host
Kinsey Machos, a Marketing Strategist, is also a recovering people pleaser, self-sabotager, and corporate hustler. She helps entrepreneurs create and execute magnetic marketing and build expert brands so that they can get known, seen, and heard online.
She believes that creating a business that’s 100% in alignment with SELF is one of the most important things that we can do as women — because there’s an inner magic that we all have if we commit to an infinite pursuit of discovering (and re-discovering) that.
As a wife and a mom of three, the family takes priority. And having a business that’s run AROUND her lifestyle is a daily intention of hers.
https://kinseymachos.com/
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Facebook: @kinsmachos
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