REWIND: Why nice guys, aren't good men.

THIS IS A REWIND EPISODE

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For the Nice Guys reading and listening to this - I feel you. Because I’ve been you.⁠⁠ ⁠

100% self-confessed recovering nice guy here.

⁠⁠With honest reflection, feedback, clarity, and some sobering acknowledgements I saw that some overarching motivations were because I needed to be liked.⁠⁠

⁠⁠Insecurity yearned to feel like I was important to and valued by others so I could convince myself of the same thing.⁠⁠

⁠⁠What a shit-sandwich that was!⁠⁠⁠⁠

One I kept making and eating.⁠⁠

Yuck. ⁠⁠

This is the Nice Guy: hope that by being nice, people will like them - see them as a good nice guy. ⁣⁠⁠

⁣⁠⁠On the surface - “So what, who doesn’t like being liked?”⁣⁠⁠

⁣⁠⁠Intent matters.⁠

⁣⁠⁠‘I’ll Be this way and do this for you, and then in return, you like me and give me reassurance.’⁣⁠⁠

⁣⁠⁠That’s not nice, brother. ⁠

It's a subtle form of manipulation. ⁣⁠

It's transactional niceness.⁠

⁠Yuck.

I know this can be a tough pill to swallow, it definitely was for me many years ago.⁠⁠

But the thing with swallowing some pills is they can create a new reality.⁠⁠

⁠⁠This pill can shed the patterns that sit beneath the nice guy persona; the need for the approval of others so that you can feel ok about yourself.⁠⁠

⁠⁠That’s a bottomless pit of resentment, frustration, self-abandonment, and hopelessness.⁠⁠

⁠⁠When we can learn to accept ourSELVES as imperfect humans that some people just won’t like, we can actually move beyond our old nice guy software and into actually being a GOOD MAN.⁠⁠

⁠⁠That’s the aim; an internal compass for self-assurance.⁠

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In this Episode:

That is what we cover in today’s podcast - a deeper look into the key differences between a Nice Guys and a Good Man.

I share some for comparison as well as expand on some of the points and give a little of my own experience and examples in some of them

For Nice Guys listening to this and resonating let me be clear on one important point: you can change this. You can be nice AND have boundaries and self-respect. You can be ok with people not liking you without being an arsehole.

But it takes work. And I invite you into exploring that work with me in EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY via a simple clarity forming conversation with me.

You have ZERO to lose in doing so - click here to find out more on ELA and book a call.

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