#42: Exploring Our Need to Belong in Complex Family Dynamics
In this weeks episode, Kat explores the concept of belonging and its importance in our lives. She discusses the six core needs of human beings: certainty, variety, significance, connection/love, growth, and contribution. Kat explains how our sense of belonging is formed in childhood and how it can impact our relationships and decision-making as adults. She also delves into topics such as gangs, money, and trauma, highlighting how they can affect our sense of belonging.
Overall, the episode emphasizes the significance of belonging and the role it plays in our well-being. In this conversation, Kat Daou discusses the various ways in which we seek belonging within our families, even if it is not in our best interest, highlighting how our family dynamics can influence our behaviors and choices. Kat emphasizes the importance of recognizing and breaking free from unhealthy patterns of belonging in order to live authentically and find true fulfillment.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
06:53 The 6 Core Needs of All Humans
15:05 What does Belonging mean?
26:47 How Unhealthy Belonging Shows Up In Our Lives
27:2 9 Childhood Under 10 Years Old (NICU, Womb + Birth Trauma)
32:46 Adoption + Belonging
35:45 Merging and Enmeshment: Blurring Boundaries
41:07 Gangs + Belonging42:19Money + Belonging
47:57 Romantic Relationships + Belonging
48:28 Understanding the Connection Between Romantic Relationships and Belonging
55:11 Food, Weight, Food Allergies + Belonging
58:50 Addiction + Belonging
01:04:40 Parents Who Create Illness In Their Kids
01:07:02 Parents Who Keep Themselves Sick To Keep Their Family Close
01:09:06 Giving Parents The Benefit Of The Doubt
01:17:06 Career, Purpose, Success + Belonging
01:19:16 The Fear of Not Belonging and the Need for Approval
01:23:53 Episode Wrap Up
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