S8 E26 | The pain and isolation of insensitivity during recurrent losses, and the power of articulating your feelings

This episode features a powerful conversation with Tom de Freston, a published author who has written about the devastating experience of miscarriage and baby loss. Tom shares his and his wife Kiran’s personal journey, including the loss of twins and a subsequent ectopic pregnancy.

He describes the lack of adequate information and support they received, as well as the emotional toll the experiences took on their relationship. From heartbreaking separations due to the Covid-19 pandemic, to ignorant comments from medical professionals, Tom articulates the experiences of far too many people.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Tom and Kiran’s experience of recurrent losses
• The lack of adequate information and support they received, and the emotional toll it had on their relationship
• The pain caused by their forced separation during key moments due to Covid-19
• The insensitive, and downright racist, language used by a medical professional
• Writing as a way to explore grief and connect with people

You can purchase Tom’s book “Strange Bodies: A Story of Loss and Desire” here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Strange-Bodies-Story-Loss-Desire/dp/1783789891 

And you can connect with him here: https://www.instagram.com/tomdefrestonart/?hl=en

The Warriorship is a membership to help you navigate life after baby loss. It covers every stage of the recovery pathway, and provides support, advice, and a range of emotional tools to help you through this difficult time. This is more than a support group. For more information and to join The Warriorship go to: https://theworstgirlgangever.co.uk/warriorship/

The Worst Girl Gang Ever is a real, honest emotive podcast that covers the heartbreaking subject of miscarriage, infertility and baby loss, expect honest conversations about unspoken experiences. Hosted by TWGGE founders Bex Gunn and Laura Buckingham, this show is a chance to break the silence and really open up the dialogue around the topic of miscarriage and pregnancy loss. No more shame, no more taboo - let's ditch that for our children; the ones that will come, the ones that are and the ones that never came to be.

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