EP131: How The Shy Guy Can Get the Girl
Women complain that it's always the creeps and arrogant jerks who approach them. Good men, on the other hand, complain that women always choose these jerks over them.
There's an apparent disconnect in this equation that needs to be addressed, and today's podcast guest might be the key to bridge that gap.
Diana Mandell is a psychotherapist, working as a relationship coach for the last 6 years. She helps men, women, and couples find and maintain healthy and sustainable relationships. Diana and her work have been featured in various international publications including Martha Stuart Weddings, New York Post, and Forbes.
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Today, Diana and I discussed the state of human social interactions, why women are attracted to jerks and helping shy guys to build confidence to talk with women. Some of the specific topics we chatted about include:
Diana’s background and her current work as a relationship coach. (03:58) The paradoxical social interaction dilemma people are having these days, an idea on how to improve communication, and ways technology can sometimes sabotage it. (04:40) How her past experience in dating and relationships as a 'shit magnet' motivated her to help shy guys in dating and relationships. (09:59) Doing roleplays and her level of involvement when working with her clients. (16:51) Treading the line between being confident enough to approach women and being misconstrued as creepy or cocky. (22:03) Why guys think that being a jerk can win the girl, why girls sometimes choose jerks and ways for shy guys to find a girl. (30:14) The looks-personality dynamics, attraction, the friendzone, and Tinder. (35:46) Crossing the friendzone, expressing interest, and taking control of a situation or interaction. (45:11) The mindset shift Diana guides her clients through and what happens during and is included in her coaching. (57:16) Diana's concept of the numbers game by dating smarter. (1:03:03)
I hope this episode was able to provide insights and practical tips for shy men to get the confidence boost that they want and need, men in general on how to better interact with women, and for women to play a more active role in dating.
If you want to reach Diana and learn more about the services she offers as a coach, visit her website at dianamandell.com.
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