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SGR 055: One Simple Thing You Can Do To Instantly Feel Better In Your Relationship
You must be curious what this one simple thing is…
Gratitude.
Why is gratitude journaling so powerful?
Our brains are extremely skilled at picking out what’s going wrong and what’s problematic. We don’t have a natural tendency to focus on what’s going well. In a relationship, this can perpetuate negative cycles and make it hard to see your partner (and be seen) doing things differently.
We want to help you change that.
By spending a few minutes each day scanning your memory for things that felt good in your relationship, you’re consciously focusing your attention on the positive. You’re feeding your brain good thoughts and your body good feelings in the context of your relationship. It’s sort of like making deposits in the emotional bank account on your own time!
Creating a gratitude journaling practice means:
- Identifying and writing down things about your partner and your relationship that you are grateful for.
- Looking at your list and feeling the feelings of gratitude, joy, or appreciation in your body.
- Visualizing the scenarios you’re referring to on your list and letting yourself enjoy it again.
This is such a small investment, huge payoff activity (our favorite!) that there is nothing to lose by trying it out. We both swear by it and have tons of clients who have experienced significant shifts in their relationships as a result of integrating this practice into their daily routines. Give it a try!
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