Shaping is a behavioral term. People often do things because they are either intrinsically rewarded (they feel good when they do it) or they are extrinsically rewarded (they receive something for doing it). If someone isn't intrinsically rewarded when they do something, they will do less of it, unless they are extrinsically rewarded. The concept behind shaping is that you offer a small external reward, when someone does something that you want them to do more more of. When you offer an external reward, such as a "thank you," they will be more likely to do it again, because it was a pleasant experience to hear the word, "thank you." Some people respond differently to different rewards, a hug might mean more to someone than a verbal "thank you." If you want someone to do a specific behavior, wait until they make a small step towards that behavior. When the small step occurs, make it a pleasurable experience by expressing your gratitude, in a way that they would appreciate. As they do the behavior at a greater frequency and at a closer proximity toward the final step, continue to express your gratitude. If they slide backwards and do the behavior at a lessor frequency, don't yell at them because that would make the context a negative context. Instead, be silent about it. The absence of appreciation will be noticeable, if appreciation was expressed previously. When they start moving forward again, show appreciation again. This will make the experience pleasant. People gravitate toward pleasurable experiences.
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