When Being Helpful Is Not So Helpful, Part2

In this second part of our discussion on respecting personal boundaries when assisting disabled people, Olivia and Raven talk about how family and friends often cross personal boundaries. They also discuss the downside to helping disabled people by always doing things for them, the double standards regarding mistakes made by disabled and nondisabled people, and appropriate ways to refuse unwanted help and respond to those who turn down assistance.

Discussion Summary:

00:35: Discussion intro.

01:03: Friends and family being some of the biggest offenders of disrespecting disabled people’s personal boundaries.

08:50: The occasions in which it’s not as inconsiderate to grab a disabled person in order to be helpful.

11:45: Familiars sharing personal information about a person’s disability with strangers, and what to disclose to members of the public about your disability.

16:46: How revealing your disability to others can do more harm than good.

20:29: Instances where people do things for a disabled person, thinking it’s faster or easier, and how that influences the belief that you’re unable.

25:00: Becoming discouraged, and the double standard for reactions to mistakes made by disabled and nondisabled people.

31:19: Responding to unwanted or intrusive help.

41:18: The most ideal ways to ask how to help someone, and appropriate responses to people refusing assistance.

44:43: Outro.

 

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Music credits: Opening: Goestories - Noir Et Blanc Vie

Discussion intro: "Leopard Print Elevator" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

Closing: First Class - DJ Williams