Negativity is Bad, Actually (025)

"If you want to be a Real Writer you need to toughen up!" ...that's what we are told, anyway. But do we? Do we really? I argue that no, that's not what we need to do, and in fact, "toughening up" makes us worse off as writers and as people. We're a sensitive bunch, and toughing it out when faced with harsh criticism won't make us better — it'll only make us bitter. 

I discuss why vulnerability and empathy are so important for our craft, and how walking away from online fights and bad reviews is often the healthiest choice. I also touch on when criticism can be useful, like from trusted editors and beta readers who want to improve our work, not tear us down. Overall, my message is simple: don't internalize negativity. Focus on the writing, and on surrounding yourself with supportive readers and fellow authors!