Why Trying Harder Isn’t Always Biblical

In this episode, we explore the theme of why trying harder may not be the most effective approach when facing a destructive marriage.

Part 1: Understanding the Reality of Destructive Marriages

• Differentiating between difficult and destructive marriages.
• Acknowledging the presence of harmful patterns such as abuse, control, or addiction in destructive marriages.
• Recognizing the importance of accurately identifying the dynamics in order to address them effectively.

Part 2: God's Heart for Safety, Growth, and Well-Being

• Exploring God's desire for healthy and safe marriages.
• Emphasizing the biblical foundation for mutual love, respect, and well-being within the marital relationship.
• Understanding that God values the safety and sanity of individuals over the mere preservation of the marriage.

Part 3: Jesus' Teachings on Self-Reflection and Treating Others

• Drawing wisdom from Matthew 7, examining Jesus' teachings on self-reflection and treating others with grace.
• Encouraging listeners to assess their own growth areas and avoid a self-righteous or judgmental attitude towards their spouses.
• Recognizing the importance of personal growth and self-care in the context of a destructive marriage.

Part 4: Challenging the Narrative of "Just Try Harder"

• Questioning the effectiveness of the advice to "just try harder" in destructive marriages.
• Empowering women to assert their individuality and decision-making rights in the face of controlling behavior.
• Encouraging open communication and setting boundaries to foster healthier dynamics within the marriage.

Part 5: Taking Steps Towards Safety and Well-Being

• Understanding the significance of taking action and pursuing personal well-being in destructive marriages.
• Exploring scriptural examples and support for seeking safety, protection, and consequences for harmful behavior.
• Highlighting the importance of self-care, seeking support from trusted sources, and exploring options for change.

Conclusion:

• Recapitulating the theme of why trying harder may not be the best advice in destructive marriages.
• Encouraging Christian women in destructive marriages to prioritize their safety, growth, and well-being.
• Offering resources and support for those seeking guidance and clarity in difficult marital situations.

Resources:

• Scriptural support for separating from a destructive spouse
• For more information, resources, and support, visit leslievernick.com/start for Leslie's free Quick Start Guide.
• May God grant you wisdom, strength, and courage as you navigate your journey in a destructive marriage. Remember, you are not alone, and there is hope for healing and restoration.