Most debate you hear today is about winning/losing and not about resolving questions and finding answers that will move society forward. All of us lose when arguments are presented in this manner. Instead, we need to listen better, speak more clearly and often at greater length, and live up to higher standards. Guidelines include: granting opponents as much ground as possible, holding ourselves and others to the integrity of stated positions, and striving to find "the rest of the argument."
Different Drummer: Dwight MacDonald
Dan Carlin's Common Sense 194: State Of The Union (particularly 33:00 - 55:35)