Ask yourself, AM I EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE? Here are some ways to tell:
- You want to breakup whenever you hit a rough patch
- You don't want to talk about the future
- You don't involve your partner in your life.
- You have self-centered behavior.
- You avoid displays of affection.
- The closer someone tries to get to you, the more you feel distant.
- When your partner is direct about their feelings for you, it makes you feel unsure about everything
- You don't trust others because you don't trust yourself.
- You're always trying to outsmart your own heart.
- You look outside to others to show you love, but you don’t put much effort into showing love to others.
- You're stuck on past relationships.
- You aren't willing to show your real self
Tips to help you become more emotionally available
- Go back to the beginning. Where did your emotional unavailability start?
- Identify which emotions you try to avoid or shut out.
- Work on your patterns. Write down a list of the positive and negative traits of past partners and your own past patterns.
- Identify your relationship character. Who do you become when you’re attracted to somebody, or you begin dating or are in a relationship?
- Get conscious about your habits.
- Make your partner’s needs and feelings equal to yours.
- Make a decision about your current relationship. Either commit to showing up or commit to being done.
- Figure Out Your Biggest Fear: Face It or F’ It.
- (Un) Learn (Re) Learn Communication. Most of us never learn how to properly communicate.
- Catch your negative self-talk and try to respond positively or at least realistically. Y
- Be patient with yourself and the process.
- Come to terms with a particular loss
- Stop the secret life.
- Be open to new experiences.
- Spend time around emotionally available people.
- Make time for your partner. Place your partner at the top of your priority list.