Labeling Children Podcast gives you 5 tips for keeping the connection with your child and rid yourself of labeling. Labeling and judgments kill a connection with your child and you may be doing it subconsciously! Try the FREE PDF below to discover your own judgments and how you might be labeling children.
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Transcript:
Is your relationship with your teenager slipping away? Do you argue all the time? Well, this short video is for you! Watch as I explain how you may be casting labels on your teen that you don’t even realize! Yes, you! We all do it! I am Kristina, founder of the Impactful parent, a teacher for over 15 years, and mom of 4 kids. Labels and judgments are a teen’s worst nightmare when they are insecure and trying to figure out their place in the world. The more we judge and label, the more our teen pulls away and distances themselves from our relationship with them. Watch and see how…
“Good Job,” I tell my toddler as she attempts to put away her dinner plate by herself.
“No, honey. We do not scream inside the house. That’s bad,” I tell my 5 year old as he runs around the living room.
As parents, we are consistently labeling our children’s actions as either good or bad from the time they are born. In the young years, this labeling serves the purpose of teaching our children right from wrong, and it also expresses our behavioral expectations for them. However, as our children get older- we must move away from this kind of labeling.
Do you label your child’s actions, interests, or even choices as good or bad? You may be thinking, “Of course not Kristina,” but I am going to challenge that thought because I think you do! We all do it! We vomit our judgment and opinions all over our kids all the time! Has your teenager ever walked out of their room with a less-than-desirable outfit or your son blast music from their headphones that you simply don’t like? Who are we to judge and make labels on other people? Perhaps you label your child’s decisions as either the right choice or bad choice because you feel you know better? For me, I pass judgment on my children because I am trying to save them from making mistakes. I say things like, “I can’t believe you chose not to wear a jacket today! It’s freezing outside. That was a bad choice.” See! I passed judgment that the decision they made was bad when I was just frustrated with them that they were needlessly going through pain or struggle (in this case, they were cold.) However, my caring is being perceived by my child as judgmental. I accused them of being wrong and having to change! Adolescents are already the most insecure creators on the planet. When someone who is supposed to love them unconditionally criticizes them, it is a big blow to their mental health. If parents make these judgments and labels often, then the teenagers begin to pull away and the rift between parent and child begins.
What is the antidote? It starts with us, the parents. As with most things, you must first be aware before you can change it, so this week I challenge you to start becoming aware.
To help you self-reflect, I have created a FREE resource document to download. Discover your habits and parenting practices that you didn’t even know were there! With awareness, we can limit our judgmental actions and move toward a better relationship with our children!
Also, go to https://youtu.be/6gn3u8PoFaA and watch last week’s video about Expectations Hurt Your Relationship With Your Child.
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