Whose love did you crave most growing up – your mother’s or your father’s? And who did you feel you had to be for that person?
Answering this question will not only help you understand how your identity was shaped, you will start to see just why you do the things you do. You will learn why you are the way you are now. The patterns that you fall into and the standards that you hold for yourself will all start to make sense. Because underneath all of this live six fundamental human needs that you are constantly striving to meet.
In this episode of the Real Breakthrough Series on the Tony Robbins Podcast we’re taking you back to Date With Destiny, where Tony is helping Akila overcome the subconscious boundaries that are holding her back from the life she desires.
Tony begins by asking Akila that critical question: Whose love did you crave most as a child? Because every single one of us has developed a model of the world based on the source of love we craved most growing up. This is the what influences the way we think and the way we act. This is what impacts the way we filter information. And this is what forms the entire way in which we experience the world.
Tony shows us that we all create certain rule structures to support our needs. And he shows us that by uncovering our top two needs, we can begin to gain more perspective on our lives. Because when we are able to take a more objective, enlightened look at ourselves, we are able to find the way to breakthrough and break free of what is holding us back.
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Becoming Michael Phelps | Tony talks to the greatest Olympian of all time about the art of the comeback, what it means to win, and the power of pushing through
From home-business to billion-dollar fitness empire | Orangetheory Fitness’ meteoric rise to the top
The insatiable fight inside UFC’s Dana White | How one man’s passion and vision led the UFC to the ultimate comeback
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The Unflagging Faith of Nick Foles | How the NFL’s star quarterback overcame his fears and self-doubt to find freedom – and success
The Power of Unity | Tony and Pastor Miles McPherson discuss the third option to healing the racial divide
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Recover your true self | Tony, Russell Brand and Mary B on freeing yourself from the addictions and attachments that control your life
Do you want to be happy? | Tony, Sage and Michael Singer on breaking patterns and finding inner peace
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