Welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode number 170 of our show. This week, Stuart is joined by guest Mickie Zada, who runs the Surviving Abuse Network. Mickie left her abusive marriage 16 years ago after over 30 years of abuse. She helps women get out of abusive situations and begin to heal.
What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
We can live in denial of abuse for a very long time 1:41
There’s so much trauma that women in abuse hold onto 3:48
It can all look perfect from the outside. It’s a facade 7:54
Emotional abuse is dramatically worse than physical abuse 9:20
Be open with your kids about the abusive behavior to educate them what is right and wrong 11:19
Shame and guilt are a part of the cycle and why victims don’t talk about abuse in their lives 13:38
Fear of walking away with nothing can keep women from fighting back 16:40
Financial abuse - When the abuser is controlling access to the money is a big red flag 17:47
Men are also being abused, there’s so much shame that goes with that. This is not Mickie’s area of expertise, as she deals primarily with women. Perhaps that is a discussion for another time?
Write Stuart with your comments and questions to: podcast@thecouplesexperts.com
Recovery is possible with a great deal of personal work and personal growth.
“If we don’t change, nothing changes” - Your outlook and perspective have to change so your choices can change. Resist going back to your abuser!
Free support, free information and education is available to learn how to make healthy choices in future relationships. Professionals can help us see who we are. We need the perspective of counselors and coaches to help us see beyond our own experiences.
Thank you so much to Mickie Zada for taking the time to share with our listeners and to all of you for spending part of your day with The Couples Expert.
Contact Mickie at www.survivingabusenetwork.com
Next Week: Join Stuart next week on The Couples Expert for a discussion about truth and lies. The impact of deceit on your love relationship is huge. Listen in as Stuart discusses what it means to live in an authentic relationship with your partner.
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196 - When you Remarry Where do you Unpack the Baggage? With Guest Brian Mayer.
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193-Staying Together when Work Keeps You Away - Encore
193 - Living and Loving in Middle Age - Life After 50 - Encore
192 - Wheres the fire I feel like your my roommate - Encore
191-Are You a Good Partner?
The Reason We All Cheat - Stuart Tells All - Encore
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188 - Emotional Intimacy - Bringing Sex Out of the Boardroom
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186 - Becoming the Diplomat of Authenticity in Attachmentland
185-RESPECT MY BOUNDARIES
184-The Importance of the Father and Son Relationship
183- Sexual Communication - Inside and Outside of the Bedroom
182-RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FOR THE NEWLYWEDS
181-Where Did Our Sex Life Go
180 - Am I Lovable Enough?
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