This is episode 152 of The Couples Expert Podcast with Stuart Fensterheim. Today, Stuart is speaking today about the ghost of our past relationships that continue to haunt us and how to exorcise them from our lives.
We can tend to get into patterns that repeat; we get stuck in these ways of interacting in relationships that are a carryover from the past. Listen as how Stuart shows us how to get rid of those ghosts that haunt us and to live in the moment, in the present with our partners and to break those patterns so they can no longer harm us.
What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:
Where the triggers come from in the past 2:45
You can understand the pattern and change it 5:20
When you believe the lies of the past they can stay with you 7:23
You deserve to have the loving relationship you desire 10:00
You have to get rid of the ghosts that block your connection 12:12
A guided exorcism by your Jewish, counselor exorcist 17:25
We know in our heads that our partners don’t want to hurt us; it’s those voices in our heads from our pasts that are the enemy. Sometimes you just need some distance; a time out to cool off so that you can come back together calmly later on and talk about what is triggering you. You have to be a team to unite against those ghosts that threaten your security and happiness.
When you pull together and show love, you can defeat the patterns and change them. You must be willing to become vulnerable together and share what’s happening in the moment. The good news is that you can move forward living mindfully in the present with the one who loves you most in the world. The two of you united fight the negativity of the past together. The life you create together overshadows those ghosts of the past.
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Next Week: Please join Stuart next week when he discusses sexuality and the impact of pornography on expectations surrounding your sex life.
Email Stuart at podcast@thecouplesexperts.com
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