Valentine’s Day post separation and divorce can be a heavy day emotionally.
First, let’s remember that it’s just another day until you say it’s otherwise. This year, Wednesday makes it feel a little easier because it’s not a big weekend thing.
What are your expectations, or what were they when you were married or in a relationship?
Honestly it is mostly, if not entirely, women who have a problem with this day. Huge expectations if in a relationship and feeling lonely and unloved if you aren’t. Noticing all the others receiving flowers and you’re not for example.
Do you notice the other women who are in relationships and don’t? Do you notice the women who receive flowers but don’t seem happy about it? Do you know anything about what is going on in their relationship because of those flowers or that dinner out?
Just because someone is doing all the right things for their partner that day doesn’t mean anything.
Let’s make this the year we stop. And if you are not able to entirely ignore the day which is hard I get it, then let’s at least plan to have a fabulous day/evening.
So here are some ideas which by the way can be incorporated any day of the year that you are feeling a bit left out or unloved or lonely like on a birthday, or anniversary or any day.
Plan to do something nice for yourself and be your own lover.
If you say you are lonely then you are. If you make plans to love yourself that day instead then that’s who you are.
Some ideas for a single's Valentine's Day:
There you have it. Please let me know what you chose to do and share a picture on Instagram or in the Facebook group and tag me. Maybe next year the list of ideas for things you can do will be twice as long.
I love you big time.
Elisabeth 💖
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82: Getting through divorce without feeling like you’re losing your mind, sanity and self-respect
81: Anger - why we need it and when it's too much
80: The Healing Heart: An Inward Journey
79: The heartache and peace when letting go of relationships that aren't working anymore
78: The Healing Benefits of a Circle of Women and Women's Retreats
77: When the love is strong AND divorce is still the only way forward, with Luci Lampe
76: How and why to stop the blame game we all play when going through divorce
75: Understand and overcome the fear you feel as you go through divorce and other life challenges
74: Finding inner peace and calm during the storm of divorce
73: Making the big decisions about your marriage, your family and your healing with Cindy Stibbard
71: Understanding Karma - the good, the bad and the transformational healing available
70: A divorce is a perfect launch pad to create your dreams and this is how you do it
69: Embarking on a healing journey and feeling ready for new relationships
68: How to make Journaling one of your mindfulness practices this year
67: A loving Winter Solstice and Holiday message just for you
66: Reclaiming self trust after divorce with Emily Pennystone
65: Healing from Emotional Abuse and the 10 step self-discovery journey
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