People often talk about what their visibility goals are, or how they want to get more visible, especially at the beginning of a year or in the first quarter.
But oftentimes we don’t discuss what we don’t want our visibility to be, what doesn’t feel aligned with how we show up. And that’s important too.
Erica Courdae joins India to discuss feeling invisible, how we judge people for wanting to be witnessed, and why visibility is about so much more than how you show up in your business.
In this discussion:
How the male gaze, and the judgment behind “pick me” and “thirsty” impact how we view visibility
How difficult experiences and transitional periods impact our sense of self and contribute to feeling invisible
How leaning into who you are and who you want to be can you feel truly witnessed
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Resources:
Urban Dictionary: pick me, thirsty, male gaze
The Ultimate Pick Me: Beyoncé, Fab Socialism
The phrase ‘pick me’ has added fuel to the fire that is internalized misogyny. - The Berkeley Beacon
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