The hosts continue exploring expectations, shifting to personal relationships this week. Cam takes the lead sharing dynamics that he sees from his Melissa Orlov coaching classes. The same habitual responses are in play in personal relationships as they were in last week’s episode on expectation and work. Add the dynamics of emotional investment and less defined roles, and the result is more contentious engagements with more emotional flooding by all parties.
Cam and Shelly believe that many of the conflicts that come to a head in any romantic relationship often start with ill-defined expectations – that the partners at some point divert on their own picture of success. Shelly and Cam share multiple client examples to illustrate this point. They point to the opportunity to see expectation as a conversation starter, for partners to develop a shared language around feelings and expectations. It’s not about compliance or getting on the same page as much as appreciating the other’s perspective. Often ADHD is viewed as a convenient nemesis of a healthy relationship. ADHD is in play, but it never acts alone. All parties have their own work to do, and once everyone agrees to this principle then real change can occur. Cam and Shelly leave listeners with some steps to address expectations proactively.
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For more of the Translating ADHD podcast:
Shifting How We Converse with ADHD
ADHD and Managing Seeds of Doubt
ADHD: When Routines Collapse
Ego and Energy: ADHD and Reframing Narratives
ADHD, Context and Storytelling
ADHD and Practical Applications of Context
Context: ADHD Superpower
Revealing the True Self in a Coaching Engagement with ADHD
Finding Your True Self When Context Shifts with ADHD
Context and Embracing Your True Self with ADHD
Repurposing Negative Emotions with ADHD Part 2
Repurposing Negative Emotions with ADHD Part 1
Being Productive in the Midst of Modern Living with ADHD
Translating ADHD Live! at the Annual International Conference on ADHD
Co-creating the Coaching Scope of Work
Clarifying Coaching Goals and Outcomes: One Client’s ADHD Coaching Story
Navigating Barriers to Change: One Client’s ADHD Coaching Story
When Are You Ready for ADHD Coaching?
Signs You Are Stuck at the Third Barrier of ADHD - New Learning
Overwhelm, Burnout and Fear: Signs of the Second Barrier of ADHD
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