Hair What I'm Saying

Black Girl Hair & Identity: Mother & Daughter Edition feat Majik

Send us a textMemory carries what our kids forget, especially when those memories live in our hands. In this Black girl hairconversation, I sit with my daughter, Majik, for a mother and daughter reflection on Black girl identity and the emotional roots behind our hair journeys. As a mother, I revisit the moment a little boy called her locs ugly, and how that moment shaped her early sense of identity as a Black girl.We start with a fun this-or-that warm-up before moving into the real: boundaries at gymnastics, that Facebook dust-up with parents, and a team meeting that reminded us why “don’t touch my hair” is about dignity, hygiene, and protecting Black girl identity. These moments show how a mother and daughter duo learns, unlearns, and stands firm together.Magic shares her daily lock routine, the evolution of her styles, and why a shoelace pineapple is her go-to. She explains the sensory weirdness of scalp-only washes, the time cost that nudged her back toward locking, and the one hair product she won’t skip: a good shampoo. I offer the stylist’s perspective—density changes, retwist timing, and how to honor every stage of Black girl hair growth while nurturing inner identity.Underneath the styles, this mother and daughter edition dives into culture, confidence, and self-definition. Magic connects her locs to inner strength but refuses to let her hair limit her full identity as a Black girl. We talk about compliments, boundaries, consent, and why asking permission matters. Through it all, one truth holds: Black girl hair is a first language, a boundary, and a bridge to belonging.Press play for stories, strategies, and a soft push to water the roots you can’t see yet. If this Black Girl Hair and Identity; Mother and Daughter Edition episode resonates, follow, rate, and share with a mom, auntie, or teen who needs this reminder.What hair story shaped you?Stay Connected to Majik:Majix TikTokMajix InstagramMajix YoutubeSupport the showAre you a part of our Patreon Community and Family?Join us today and let’s continue building and fostering healthier connections with our hair—from the inside out. As a member, you’ll get access to bonus episodes, behind-the-scenes content, limited e-books, early access, and a supportive space for real conversations that go beyond the mic. Do you have a story to share that’s worth our listeners hearing, please fill out the Listener Letters Form and tell us your story! We would love to hear from you! Don't forget to follow Kinetra on Instagram @_hairwhatimsaying_ and check out her website Hair What I'm Saying for more.Please leave a review and rate the show. Let us know how we are doing! Support the Hair What I’m Saying Podcast💛 From the bottom of my heart, thank you for being part of this community.buymeacoffee.com/hairwhatimsaying

“When a Haircut Goes Viral: Fear, Communication, and the Emotional Attachment to Black Hair”

Send us a textIn this episode of Hair What I’m Saying, we unpack the haircut that went viral on TikTok and why it sparked so much emotion. From the fear many Black women have around cutting their hair to the deep emotional attachment we place on our strands, we dive into the psychology behind why haircuts can feel personal.I break down the importance of consultations and clear communication with your stylist, showing why understanding your hair’s health is more important than just chasing length. We explore how fear and misconceptions about Black hair can turn a routine haircut into a viral moment, and why stylists often face the heat after doing their best.If you’ve ever hesitated before a haircut, worried about losing length, or struggled with your hair’s health, this episode is for you. We talk about emotional attachment, proper consultations, and how communication between client and stylist can prevent misunderstandings. Plus, we highlight why your hair deserves care, not fear, and how letting go of damaged ends can help your hair truly thrive.Tune in as we discuss TikTok drama, real stylist experiences, and why fear, emotional attachment, and communicationare at the center of every haircut. Whether you’re a client or a stylist, this episode will help you rethink how you view your hair and your next trim.Support the showAre you a part of our Patreon Community and Family?Join us today and let’s continue building and fostering healthier connections with our hair—from the inside out. As a member, you’ll get access to bonus episodes, behind-the-scenes content, limited e-books, early access, and a supportive space for real conversations that go beyond the mic. Do you have a story to share that’s worth our listeners hearing, please fill out the Listener Letters Form and tell us your story! We would love to hear from you! Don't forget to follow Kinetra on Instagram @_hairwhatimsaying_ and check out her website Hair What I'm Saying for more.Please leave a review and rate the show. Let us know how we are doing! Support the Hair What I’m Saying Podcast💛 From the bottom of my heart, thank you for being part of this community.buymeacoffee.com/hairwhatimsaying

Curl Pattern Myths Pt. 2: Why the Curl Pattern Chart Fails Black Hair Care

Send us a textLabels make hair feel simple, until they don’t. In Curl Myths Pt. 2, we move past the alphabet soup of curl types and dig into what actually matters for real results in hair care. Let’s talk texture, not type, and shift the focus to porosity, density, elasticity, moisture–protein balance, and how your scalp and strands respond to water, products, heat, and climate.I share why the popular curl pattern chart feels validating yet fails to guide actual care, how marketing leans on those labels to sell you more, and what your hair’s nonverbal cues are trying to tell you when it frizzes, snaps, or refuses to clump.You’ll hear a practical breakdown of growth myths versus breakage reality, why DIY masks can push your hair into protein overload, and how to run small, smart experiments that reveal what your natural hair truly needs. We also unpack the chart’s origins and biases; and why tightly coiled textures deserve science and respect, not instructions to straighten.Then we rebuild from the ground up with a simple, science-based routine: clarifying and moisturizing shampoos, slip-first conditioners, a balanced deep treatment, a leave-in, and one styling agent that fits your density and goals. For color-treated or relaxed hair, we’ll cover when bond builders like K18 or Olaplex fit in, and why they complement, not replace, hydration.Expect clear, actionable guidance on reading porosity, dialing product amounts for density, protecting elasticity, and adjusting your routine for seasons, hard water, and health changes. If you’ve been stuck choosing products by letters and numbers, this is your permission to switch to observation, patience, and consistency.Support the showAre you a part of our Patreon Community and Family?Join us today and let’s continue building and fostering healthier connections with our hair—from the inside out. As a member, you’ll get access to bonus episodes, behind-the-scenes content, limited e-books, early access, and a supportive space for real conversations that go beyond the mic. Do you have a story to share that’s worth our listeners hearing, please fill out the Listener Letters Form and tell us your story! We would love to hear from you! Don't forget to follow Kinetra on Instagram @_hairwhatimsaying_ and check out her website Hair What I'm Saying for more.Please leave a review and rate the show. Let us know how we are doing! Support the Hair What I’m Saying Podcast💛 From the bottom of my heart, thank you for being part of this community.buymeacoffee.com/hairwhatimsaying

“Curl Pattern Chart Myths: What Stylists Want You to Know”

Send us a textWatch on YouTubeThe curl chart went viral, but it never learned your life. We sit down with Minnie of Shag Noir Salon ATX to unpack why letters and numbers can’t tell you what your hair needs; and what actually can. From porosity and pH to water hardness, climate, and stress, we share a simple way to decode your hair’s real behavior and build rituals that work in the real world, not just on a grid. Minnie takes us through her journey working with every texture, the hard-earned lessons of salon education, and the honest talk clients crave: growth versus length retention, the myth of “complicated” natural hair, and why a minimal routine often outperforms a product haul. We break down how to spot influencer noise, when to trust a pro, and how to track what’s working with photo journals and small, measured tweaks. You’ll hear practical approaches for detangling with tension, choosing lighter milks for low-porosity hair, sealing for high-porosity strands, and using chelating when hard water dulls your results. We also go deeper on texturism and language. Words like “nappy” don’t just sting; they shape behavior and stress. We explore how reframing our vocabulary can change how we care for hair, how bias shows up in chairs and feeds, and why preference in technique isn’t prejudice but context. If your goal is “soft and manageable,” we show you how to get there without chasing someone else’s pattern. If you love a silk press, we set realistic expectations about reversion, maintenance, and strand health. Your hair is a living system; responsive, resilient, and personal. Trade the chart for curiosity, build a ritual you can keep, and make peace with what you have while getting the feel you want. If this conversation helped, follow, subscribe, and leave a review. Share it with someone who’s ready to ditch the letters and finally understand their hair.You can connect with Minnie on Instagram personally and professionally at trichophile or shagnoirsalon.Don't forget to follow Kinetra on Instagram @_hairwhatimsaying_ and check out her website Hair What I'm Saying for more.Support the showAre you a part of our Patreon Community and Family?Join us today and let’s continue building and fostering healthier connections with our hair—from the inside out. As a member, you’ll get access to bonus episodes, behind-the-scenes content, limited e-books, early access, and a supportive space for real conversations that go beyond the mic. Do you have a story to share that’s worth our listeners hearing, please fill out the Listener Letters Form and tell us your story! We would love to hear from you! Don't forget to follow Kinetra on Instagram @_hairwhatimsaying_ and check out her website Hair What I'm Saying for more.Please leave a review and rate the show. Let us know how we are doing! Support the Hair What I’m Saying Podcast💛 From the bottom of my heart, thank you for being part of this community.buymeacoffee.com/hairwhatimsaying

Happy Birthday to Hair What I'm Saying!

Send us a textCelebrating two years of podcasting growth from nervous beginnings to international reach and award-winning status. This anniversary episode reflects on the journey, impact, and future of Hair What I'm Saying. Started with just a microphone, vision, and nerves two years ago. Now in the top 5% of podcasts on Listen Notes with an international audienceWon the Women Who Podcast Award for Reppin the Southwest RegionCreated a platform for discussions about hair, identity, growth, and selfLearned to show up consistently even when feeling uncertainMost meaningful moments include hearing how episodes have helped listeners embrace their natural hairPlanning deeper conversations, motivational content, and possibly a first annual eventIf you love this show and want to celebrate our two-year anniversary with me, share this episode with a friend, leave a review, or tag me on social media and tell me what your favorite episode has been so far.Support the showAre you a part of our Patreon Community and Family?Join us today and let’s continue building and fostering healthier connections with our hair—from the inside out. As a member, you’ll get access to bonus episodes, behind-the-scenes content, limited e-books, early access, and a supportive space for real conversations that go beyond the mic. Do you have a story to share that’s worth our listeners hearing, please fill out the Listener Letters Form and tell us your story! We would love to hear from you! Don't forget to follow Kinetra on Instagram @_hairwhatimsaying_ and check out her website Hair What I'm Saying for more.Please leave a review and rate the show. Let us know how we are doing! Support the Hair What I’m Saying Podcast💛 From the bottom of my heart, thank you for being part of this community.buymeacoffee.com/hairwhatimsaying