Twin Minds Unwind

The Hidden Side of Perfectionism: When Not Trying Is Still Trying with Dr. Yesel Yoon

In this conversation, Dr. Holly Batchelder and Dr. Yesel Yoon explore the complexities of perfectionism, its cultural influences, and the journey towards healing. Dr. Yoon shares insights from her book, 'Letting Go of Perfectionism,' discussing how perfectionism can be both a survival mechanism and a source of distress. They dive into the nuances of perfectionism, including the concepts of over-functioning and under-functioning, and emphasize the importance of self-compassion and redefining 'good enough.' The discussion also covers practical treatment approaches for managing perfectionism and the societal pressures that contribute to these tendencies.Bio Dr. Yesel Yoon is a Psychologist and Learning Facilitator. She loves bringing people together to learn, reflect, and grow. Her background as a psychologist has given her deep insight into how people learn, build habits, and navigate uncertainty. After a successful career in private practice helping people make meaningful, sustainable shifts in how they work and live, she’s looking forward to applying these skills in organizational contexts—creating group programs, trainings, and resources that help people build the skills the modern workplace demands. She recently authored the book, “Letting Go of Perfectionism: Stop Striving and Start Living”. In this book, she weaves her personal and professional perspectives to help people get a more nuanced understanding of how perfectionism and striving affect our well being. https://www.amazon.com/Letting-Go-Perfectionism-Striving-Living/dp/1399817310) You can read more about her and connect with her on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/yyoonphd/ -Disclaimer: This podcast provides general information and discusses mental health and related subjects. The content provided in this episode is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay seeking it because of something you have heard on this podcast.Dr Holly Batchelderhttps://www.youtube.com/@dr.hollybatchelderhttps://www.hollyphd.com/

What Really Matters: A Conversation on Values, Self-Worth, and Meaning

After a year away from the pod, psychologists Dr. Holly and Dr. Alison sit down to talk about what’s been on their minds: values, worthiness, and what actually makes a life feel meaningful. With no script and no plan, this conversation moves the way real life does, honest, a little messy, and surprisingly deep.They unpack why it’s so hard to know what you truly value when you’ve been in survival mode, how your body often knows the truth before your mind does, and why so many of us mistake obligations for values. They also discuss raising daughters who feel inherently worthy, navigating identity shifts, and learning to choose a life that feels like their own, without waiting to earn it.This episode is part catch-up, part love letter to their kids, and part reminder that you’re already enough to start living the life you want.Chapters02:00 Understanding and Defining Values12:40 How Experience and the Body Clarify What Matters20:55 Values, Growth, and Life Transitions27:00 Teaching Worth and Values to Our DaughtersResourcesLundgren, T., Luoma, J., & Hayes, S. C. (2012). The Bull’s-Eye Values Survey. In W. O’Donohue & J. Fisher (Eds.), Cognitive Behavior Therapy (pp. 451–457). Wiley.https://www.actmindfully.com.au/free-stuff/Dr. Alison Batchelderhttps://www.alisonbatchelderphd.com/Dr Holly Batchelderhttps://www.youtube.com/@dr.hollybatchelderhttps://www.hollyphd.com/-Disclaimer: This podcast provides general information and discusses mental health and related subjects. The content provided in this episode is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay seeking it because of something you have heard on this podcast.

Is Resentment Inevitable? Strategies for Connection and Repair

In this episode, Dr. Holly Batchelder and Dr. Alison Batchelder discuss the complexities of resentment, its impact on relationships, and practical strategies for healing. They explore the nature of resentment, why we hold onto it, and how it can affect our emotional health. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and practicing self-compassion as key steps in overcoming resentment and reclaiming emotional freedom.TakeawaysCommunication is key to addressing unmet needs and expectations.Setting boundaries can prevent feelings of resentment from building up.Self-compassion plays a vital role in managing resentment.Resentment often stems from perceived injustices and unmet expectations.Practicing gratitude can help shift focus away from resentment.Resentment can be protective but ultimately hinders emotional growth.Healing from resentment is a gradual process that requires intentional effort.Chapters00:08 Introduction and Podcast Background09:12 The Causes of Resentment14:58 The Impact of Resentment on Relationships23:35 Strategies for Managing ResentmentDr. Alison Batchelderhttps://www.alisonbatchelderphd.com/Dr Holly Batchelderhttps://www.youtube.com/@dr.hollybatchelderhttps://www.hollyphd.com/-Disclaimer: This podcast provides general information and discusses mental health and related subjects. The content provided in this episode is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay seeking it because of something you have heard on this podcast.

Inside Sport Psychology: Mental Health Strategies for Athletes and Beyond with Dr Tess Kilwein

In this episode of the Twin Minds Unwind podcast, Dr. Holly Batchelder interviews Dr. Tess Kilwein, a board-certified clinical and sport psychologist. They discuss the growing field of sport psychology, the mental health challenges athletes face, and the importance of self-compassion and mindfulness in performance. Dr. Kilwein shares strategies for managing performance anxiety, balancing personal and professional life, and the need for inclusivity in sport psychology. Guest BioDr. Kilwein (she/they) is a board-certified, licensed clinical and sport psychologist practicing in California, Colorado, Tennessee, Wyoming, and PSYPACT® states. They provide sport psychology, mental health, and performance services for Vanderbilt University’s student-athletes, teams, and staff through a comprehensive and integrated performance enhancement and mental health consultation service. Dr. Kilwein is also the founder of Unapologetic Psychology, a clinical practice that provides assessment, psychotherapy, consultation, training, and sport and mental performance services with a unique focus on elite performing, transgender and gender-expansive, and rural populations. They are a Certified Mental Performance Consultant and a member of the United States Olympic & Paralympic Committee Mental Health Registry, the Canada Olympic and Paralympic Mental Health Network, and the Major League Baseball Players Association Mental Health and Wellness Network. Dr. Kilwein’s clinical specializations include trauma/PTSD, substance use/addiction, masculinity, sex and relationships, transgender and gender-expansive healthcare, and sport and performance psychology. They are also an elected member of the American Psychological Association’s Committee for Rural Health and active in research and advocacy related to identity-based marginalization and health-compromising behaviors (e.g., substance use, sexual behaviors).Takeaways Sport psychology is a growing field that impacts many. Athletes face unique mental health challenges, including performance anxiety. Self-compassion is crucial for athletes to perform at their best. Mindfulness and visualization are effective strategies for managing anxiety. Balancing personal life and performance is a common struggle for athletes. Cultural pressures in sports reflect broader societal issues. Inclusivity in sport psychology is essential for all athletes. Developing mental strength requires active practice and habit-building.Dr. Tess Kilweinhttps://www.tessmkilweinllc.com/https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticpsychpllc/Dr Holly Batchelderhttps://www.youtube.com/@dr.hollybatchelderhttps://www.instagram.com/holly.phd/?hl=en-Disclaimer: This podcast provides general information and discusses mental health and related subjects. The content provided in this episode is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay seeking it because of something you have heard on this podcast.

Decolonizing Mental Health: Trauma-Informed Therapy for BIPOC Communities with Dr. Pavna Sodhi

In this episode, Dr. Holly talks with Dr. Pavna Sodhi about the power of trauma-informed psychotherapy tailored for BIPOC communities. They explore key mental health challenges, the deep impact of intergenerational trauma, and the importance of decolonizing therapy practices to foster healing and inclusivity. Dr. Sodhi shares insights on normalizing therapy, creating safe spaces, and the role of community care in mental health. Tune in for thoughtful strategies on resilience, cultural humility, and collective healing.Keywords: Trauma-Informed Psychotherapy, BIPOC Mental Health, Intergenerational Trauma, Decolonizing Mental Health, Cultural Humility, Systemic Oppression, Community Care, Healing, Resilience, Mental Health ChallengesChapters00:00 Introduction to Trauma-Informed Psychotherapy02:41 Understanding BIPOC Mental Health Challenges05:21 Intergenerational Trauma and Its Impact08:11 Decolonizing Mental Health Practices11:03 Strategies for Healing and Resilience14:00 The Role of Community in Mental Health16:52 Decolonizing Psychology and Inclusivity19:32 Key Takeaways and Final ThoughtsGuest Bio: Pavna K. Sodhi, EdD (she/her), is a registered psychotherapist, author, speaker, and adjunct professor residing in Ontario, Canada. With over 25 years of psychotherapeutic and research experience, Dr. Sodhi has interacted with a multitude of populations in various clinical, academic, and supervisory spaces. Her professional background and personal narrative offer a unique research perspective regarding culturally responsive trauma-informed work, BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, and People of Colour) communities, and immigrant mental health. Her research has been featured in national and international scholarly journals and books. She credits her Punjabi-Sikh upbringing and lived experience for her continued interest in these timely topics. As a productive ally, she takes pride in decentring systemic racism, breaking barriers, and encouraging others to be culturally responsive. Her latest book titled, Trauma-Informed Psychotherapy for BIPOC Communities: Decolonizing Mental Health (Routledge) was launched in June 2024.https://www.routledge.com/Trauma-Informed-Psychotherapy-for-BIPOC-Communities-Decolonizing-Mental-Health/Sodhi/p/book/9781032106854Pavna K. Sodhihttps://www.instagram.com/sunotherapy/?hl=enhttps://linktr.ee/sunotherapy?utm_source=linktree_profile_sharehttps://www.youtube.com/@dr.hollybatchelder-Disclaimer: This podcast provides general information and discusses mental health and related subjects. The content provided in this episode is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay seeking it because of something you have heard on this podcast.