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Why Plans & Goals BACKFIRE (and What You REALLY Need for Success)

Send us a textIn this bonus episode, I share a recent training I gave that underscores why it's NOT your fault that you fall short on your goals or can't seem to change your habits.You'll learn: Why all the standard productivity and personal development advice fails you5 cutting-edge, neuroscience-backed truths that explain why you always revert back to your old waysThe 6 simple things you must do differently if you really want to change your life FOR SO MUCH MORE:Join my new 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM, to learn the six most fundamental life coaching skills EVERY mom needs so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships. First round starts Friday, January 16th; sign up at https://momsmadenew.comLoving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to help@solutionsforsimplicity.com and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE! CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

Why You Never Change: The Neuroscience of Staying Stuck

Send us a textIn this first episode of the new year, I’m naming the real reason so many women—especially high-achieving, overwhelmed moms—set goals every January but still end up quickly reverting back to old patterns. Even when you want change. Even when you know what to do. Even when you’re deeply dissatisfied with where you are. It all comes down to your nervous system and the subconscious beliefs that your brain relies on to keep you safe.I also offer a series of alternative perspectives on the classic excuses women use as justifications for why investing in the tools and support that will help you change isn’t possible for them. This episode is confronting, but in the most kind and loving way.  BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:How EVERY goal triggers stress because change requires time, energy, risk, and often moneyWhy your brain defaults to its normal patterns and, worse, relies on unhealthy coping mechanisms to soothe the discomfort of your failed attempts to changeHow nervous system work isn’t fluff; it’s THE missing link between desire and action. (Spoiler alert: Mindset work will never be enough!)Why you can’t expect new results until you become someone who has the neurological capacity to overcome your limiting beliefsWhy investing in support often feels impossible, unnecessary, unsafe (but is the KEY to transformation because you can’t outthink your own brain by yourself) AS MENTIONED:1) FREE LIVE masterclass: “Why Plans, Habits, & Goals Backfire – and What You REALLY Need for a Successful 2026” on Tuesday, January 6th at 1pm Eastern with replay included; sign up at https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/backfire 2) When you start healing at the level of your nervous system, your whole home feels the difference. Join my new 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM, to learn the six most fundamental life coaching skills EVERY mom needs so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships. First round starts Friday, January 16th; sign up at https://momsmadenew.com 3) Prior podcast episodes on “How to Hormone Hack Your Goals”Part 1: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/17810686Part 2: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/17851261  HOMEWORK:Consider whether the beLoving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to help@solutionsforsimplicity.com and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE! CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

Moms’ HARDEST Week of the Year (and How to Get Through It)

Send us a textIn this episode, I name what so many moms quietly feel: the week after Christmas is often the hardest week of the entire year—not because you’re doing anything wrong, but because your nervous system is depleted and your circumstances haven’t caught up with your desire for a fresh start. I also share three very specific things you can look forward to—including free resources and a brand-new program designed to help overwhelmed moms stop white-knuckling their way through life and finally feel like themselves again.If you’re feeling overstimulated, worn out, and stuck in limbo until the kids go back to school…this episode is your permission to start understanding what your brain and body really need right now.  BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:Why this in-between week feels so emotionally heavy for momsWhy your brain desperately wants to fast-forward to JanuaryHow boredom, chaos, mental load, and lack of structure drain you even moreHow giving your brain something to look forward to can shift your emotional stateWhat actually helps when you feel stuck, unmotivated, and tapped out AS MENTIONED:FREE on-demand masterclass: “Unburdened: Releasing the Mental Load” available until Friday, January 2nd at 11:59pm Pacific at https://solutionsforsimplicity.com/unburdenedFREE LIVE masterclass: “Why Plans, Habits, & Goals Backfire – and What You REALLY Need for a Successful 2026” on Tuesday, January 6th at 1pm Eastern with replay included; sign up at https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/backfireWhen you start healing at the level of your nervous system, your whole home feels the difference. Join my new 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM, to learn the six most fundamental life coaching skills EVERY mom needs to flourish. Starts Friday, January 16th; sign up at https://momsmadenew.com HOMEWORK:Take advantage of at least one (or ideally all three) of the opportunities above. Email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. For so much more, sign up for a free consult at https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult) COMING UP NEXT:Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden causes of stress keeping you overwhelmed and stealing your time and joy.  CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

The Dopamine Trap of Christmas: Why You're Likely to Feel Disappointed

Send us a textChristmas is supposed to feel magical… so why are so many moms disappointed once it finally arrives?If you find yourself feeling let down, overstimulated, exhausted, or even sad on/after Christmas, you didn’t do anything wrong. Your brain did exactly what it’s wired to do.In this episode, I unpack the dopamine trap of Christmas—a powerful neuroscientific reality for why the anticipation of the holidays feels better than the holiday itself, especially for moms.  BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER: Why moms are likely to feel more joy leading up to Christmas than during itThe neuroscience of dopamine, anticipation, and emotional letdownWhy feeling underwhelmed after Christmas does NOT mean you did anything “wrong”What to do when the holiday high fades and reality hits hardHow all this is happening for your sweet kids as well (cue the meltdowns!)  FOR SO MUCH MORE:When you start healing at the level of your nervous system, your whole home feels the difference. Sign up for a free consult (https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult) and/or join my new 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM (https://momsmadenew.com), to learn the six most fundamental life coaching skills EVERY mom needs to flourish.   HOMEWORK:Did this episode resonate? Email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. COMING UP NEXT:Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden causes of stress keeping you overwhelmed and stealing your time and joy. CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

Why Losing Control Feels Like Losing Yourself: The Survival Response That’s COSTING You Connection

Send us a textIf you’re the kind of mom who only feels okay when everything is under control (the house, your to-do list, the kids’ moods, even your own emotions), you can’t afford to miss this powerful interview with Dr. Hayden Finch on “control mode”: that subtle and often socially rewarded way high-achievers seek control to feel safe. Few, if any, moms realize their desire for control is actually a protective survival strategy your nervous system took on from a young age that’s now COSTING you connection. The more you need things “in order”, the more rigid, exhausted, and disconnected you become—especially in marriage and motherhood where control is basically impossible.In this episode, we explore the real difference between healthy discipline and threat-driven control, how control sabotages connection with your kids and husband, how to start relaxing your grip without spiraling, and so much more.   BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:What “control mode” really is—yet why it actually doesn’t feel controlling at allWhere control seeking comes from (hint: BOTH chaotic childhoods and perfectionistic childhoods can create the same compulsion)What really happens in your brain and nervous system when life feels out of control—and why rigidity increases under stressHow trying to control or fix emotions (whether yours or others’) only blocks connection and authenticityHow real change comes not from relinquishing the control mode mindset but from experiencing that you survive life without total control AS MENTIONED:Prior episode with Dr. Finch on procrastination and high functioning anxietyGet more of Dr. Hayden Finch, a licensed clinical psychologist, behavior change expert, author, and founder of the Finch Center for High Functioning Anxiety:WebsiteBook: The Psychology of Procrastination When you start healing at the level of your nervous system, your whole home feels the difference. Sign up for a free consult and/or join my new 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM, to learn the six most fundamental life coaching skills EVERY mom needs to flourish.  HOMEWORK:Reflect on which path led you to strive to control things: a messy, chaotic childhood? A rigid, super strict childhood? Or a different experience later in life? Observe how it feels in your body when things feel OUT of controlLoving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to help@solutionsforsimplicity.com and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE! CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.