How do unfaithful partners typically respond differently than hurt partners after an affair? What constitutes an affair - intercourse? Instant messaging? Flirting? How can unfaithful partners take responsibility for the damage they caused and earn forgiveness?
These are just a few of the many questions that leave couples feeling confused about what to do after there has been an affair. Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD has beautifully answered these questions in her book, After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful. She normalizes and reassures couples about what they are going through in a way that gives them hope.
That book has been incredibly successful and has sold over 500,000 copies. In addition to that she has written two other books which are linked below. She has been in practice for over 40 years in Westport, Connecticut.
Check out Dr. Spring's website at janisaspring.com
Books
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To
Life with Pop: Lessons on Caring for an Aging Parent
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032: How Parenthood Impacts Relationships with Elly Taylor
031: Premarital Counseling with Mayi Dixon
030: Helping Couples Cope After Infidelity with Terri DiMatteo
029: Love Your Paperwork with Maelisa Hall
028: Exploring EFT with Jim Thomas
027: Harriet Lerner on Apologizing
026: Less Conflict, More Connection with Figs O'Sullivan
025: Love is a Verb with Bill O'Hanlon
024: Couples and Autism with Janeen Herskovitz
023: Ernesto Segismundo on Creativity, Video, and Social Media
022: Gay Couples with Alapaki Yee and Salvatore Garanzini
021: True Love is not True: Relationships Take Work
020: How to Ask About Sex in Couples Therapy with Martha Kauppi
019: Hedy Schleifer on Encounter-centered Couples Therapy
018: Amber Hawley on Building Your Business Community
017: Using Gottman Interventions to Enhance Intimacy with Laura Heck
016: Joy Harden Bradford on Being Open to the Conversation of Privilege
015: Lori Gottlieb on Writing to Help Relationships
014: Addiction and Couples Therapy with Bob Navarra
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