When I shared 3 Thriving Thoughts for Hard Days a few weeks ago, we were not at the end of the unexpected and hard around here. The reality is that my capacity and desire for doing things and running the household are shrinking as my energy is being diverted toward the emotional and physical realities and reactions to our circumstances.
I’ve also realized that my physical energy and health vary greatly every month, and I have some ongoing health challenges. I want to have a more realistic handle on what I’m committing to. When I created my vision at the beginning of the year, I had no clue what the first few months would throw at us, and I very excitedly jumped into lots of things, but now I’m finding myself stressed by these self-imposed expectations.
As I was pondering this situation earlier this week, I had the inspiration (in my usual place, the shower) to write a Yes List. What is a Yes List, you ask?
A yes list is a list of everything you’ve said yes to. Because I really don’t like not finishing things and seeing them through to the end, it was very helpful for me to put things on paper and look at them objectively. Then, I could sift through everything and simplify those “yeses” to the absolute essential. I used a Think and Process page in my Thriving in Motherhood Planner and carried it around with me during the day so I could add to it.
Here are five areas from my Yes List that I’m currently simplifying:
Books: I revisited my reading list and wrote down all the books I wanted to come back to in the future. For now, I’m focusing on reading this that builds my character and less on books that require me to take action.
Gardening: Instead of an all-or-nothing approach, I’m simplifying our gardening activities and making progress without making it too complicated.
Rooms: We are continuing our journey to simplify our living spaces, focusing on reducing clutter without getting too overwhelmed with perfection.
Programs/Commitments: I evaluated all the programs I’m a part of and sorted through what is time-sensitive and what can wait. I’ve also re-evaluated my commitments, saying no to some things I had previously said yes to.
Homeschooling: We are embracing our current homeschool and focusing on relationships over perfection. This approach fosters a deeper and more meaningful learning experience.
In a nutshell, I’m on a quest to get really clear on what really matters RIGHT NOW and redirecting my energy and focus where it counts the most. Writing in my Thriving in Motherhood Journal every day is really helping me find the guidance I’m seeking.
Surviving a Difficult Pregnancy with Young Children at Home [Episode 197]
YOUR Visions for 2022! [Episode 196]
What to do when a yearly vision is overwhelming [Episode 195]
Developing a Strong Sense of Self With Anna Crabb [Episode 194]
Only Good Comes From Your Personal Growth [Episode 193]
See the Good You've Created Right Now [Episode 192]
3 Zero Prep Meaningful Christmas Traditions You Can Do Now [Episode 191]
Why Every Moms Needs a Vision for the Year [Episode 190]
My Top 10 Books Read in 2021 [Episode 189]
Becoming Resilient Through Life's Challenges with Carlie Ni [Episode 188]
My Get Ahead Plan [Episode 187]
For When You Are in a Stressful Season of Motherhood [Episode 186]
The Fastest Way to Make Friends as a Mom [Episode 185]
Bringing Simple Seasonal Activities into our days [Episode 184]
Everything is as it should be [Episode 183]
9 Meaningful and Simple Birthday Traditions [Episode 182]
The Miracles Behind the Soaring Mothers Summit [Episode 181]
How to Start Something New Part 2 [Episode 180]
How to take a break when you can't leave your kids [Episode 179]
What to Do When You Are Lost in Motherhood [Episode 178]
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