Leslie Stephens is the writer behind Morning Person, a top 10 Substack newsletter that chronicles her life in Portland, Oregon. In August last year, shortly after her 30th birthday, Leslie announced to her readers that she was separating from her husband. Over the past 18 months, she’s chronicled her journey of living by herself for the first time, including her recent solo house purchase – which we chat about in this episode. She also shares her advice – as a former food and lifestyle editor – of establishing a home by yourself, and – crucially – for yourself, rather than designing around the absence of someone else. Whether or not you’re already familiar with Leslie’s work, this conversation is full of gems for any kind of solo living – I hope you get as much from it as I did.
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Chapters
00:00
Introduction
01:00
Learning to Make a Home for One
02:25
Designing a Home as a Solo Liver
05:22
The Challenges and Mistakes of Designing Alone
06:47
Designing with a Partner vs Designing Alone
10:59
The Lack of Resources for Solo Living
11:55
Creating Content for Solo Living
13:17
Making Changes in a Solo Living Space
14:44
The Importance of Solitude in Designing a Home
19:44
The Lack of Resources for Designing a First Home Alone
21:08
Building a New Relationship with a Parent
22:32
Navigating the Grey Areas of Life
25:16
Coping with Weekends and Sundays Alone
27:07
Finding Joy in Cooking for One
32:29
Creating Recipes and Experimenting with Cooking Alone
38:11
The Inspiration Behind the Novel 'You're Safe Here'
46:26
Maintaining Solitude in a Relationship
47:45
The Ultimate Alonement: Movement and Stillness
10:00
The Importance of Self-Awareness
20:00
The Role of External Validation
30:00
Navigating Comparison and Social Media
40:00
The Impact of Internal Dialogue
48:40
Conclusion
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