“My partner says I’m using my ADHD as an excuse. They’re not really understanding ADHD at all or how it affects me!”
You shared your relationship struggles and you’re not the only one!
Today’s guest, Melissa Orlov, answers YOUR questions from my free Facebook group. We discuss ADHD as an excuse, partners who don’t understand ADHD, communication obstacles between ADHD partners and non-ADHD partners.
We also dive into guilt, shame, trust, coping with RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) when it feels like your partner is constantly criticizing you, how all of this affects intimacy, and life after divorce.
Melissa is the founder of ADHDmarriage.com and works with couples impacted by ADHD. There’s hope for your relationship, too, mama.
Let’s dive into your questions!
Links mentioned in this episode :
Melissa’s recent read: Barbara Kingsolver's Poisonwood Bible
Melissa’s Blog post: https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/maybe-just-maybe-adhd-excuse-act-heartless-jerk
How to connect with Melissa:
Her website: http://www.ADHDmarriage.com
Her instagram: @adhd_marriage
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here:
https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-202-Same-Fight-Again-how-to-Improve-Romantic-Relationship-when-Impacted-by-ADHD-with-Melissa Orlov
Stop Medusa Mom in her tracks with these 10 tips to calm down before you lose your cool! Watch (or read) the free video here: https://www.patriciasung.com/calm
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