Have you ever heard of a growth mindset vs. a fixed mindset? It’s often come up in conversations I’ve had about parenting and helping our kids understand that “if at first, you don’t succeed, try, try again.”
In this week’s episode with Kate House of the Live By Design Podcast, she shares how this principle applies to our mindsets in motherhood.
Two Fixed Mindsets That You Might Experience As A Mom
I’m not worthy
I’m not a priority
Discovering the root of lack of worthiness comes by asking yourself “why” enough times until you discover the underlying thought for yourself personally. But once you discover the reason, you can replace it with an intentional thought like, “I’m worthy enough to feel joy.”
It’s also common in our culture for moms to share the idea that “I’m not a priority because I’m so busy taking care of everyone else.” But the reality is YOU are the only one that can actually take care of you, and if this is something you find yourself saying, you can change one baby step at a time.
If you are in a fixed mindset, it's the idea that you are born with the abilities that you have, and you can't grow and change. You might be thinking things like, "I could never," "I can't do this," I won't change."
In a growth mindset, you believe that you can learn, grow and change. You might be thinking things like: "I can grow and continue to learn," "I can ask for help," "I can find support", or "I can get creative." It's a continuum. We are always going to fall somewhere in between, which is incredibly liberating for any recovering perfectionist, so you never have to try to be 100% growth set all of the time.
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How to Make Progress on Your Goals when You're Exhausted [Episode 135]
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From Chaos to Calm with Steph The Secret Slob [Episode 133]
Owning the Pivot into Motherhood with Elizabeth Jacox [Episode 132]
Embracing Your Individual Journey with Angela Red Elk Laughlin [Episode 131]
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