We all encounter challenges in our relationships, some more serious than others, but it’s how we handle them that ultimately matters.For many of us, when we feel pain, we tend to blame our partners. We criticize, close up. We avoid them, ignore them. All to play a game of who’s wrong and who’s right. But when you truly love someone - it doesn’t matter who’s wrong or who’s right. In fact, blame only takes our power away, and excuses only cause us to continue hurting each other.
Welcome back to the Tony Robbins Podcast. On today’s episode of the Real Breakthrough Series, we’re taking you back to Date With Destiny where Tony is working with Teresa and John, a couple fighting their way out of a painful past and trying to figure out a path towards a healthier, happier future.
While Teresa and John have made substantial progress since dealing with infidelity, they still struggle when it comes to constructive communication. They slip back into old ways, making excuses for their behavior and shirking responsibility for their actions. But it’s clear they are still deeply in love, and are committed to finding a better way.
Tony helps them see that if you’re having problems in your relationship, and feeling pain, it’s because you’re focused on yourself, not your partner. He helps them see that you can’t continue to focus on what you’re not getting, and what your partner’s not giving you. Because if you want to build an extraordinary relationship, you need to tear up the rules and start holding yourself 100% accountable for your experience.
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Secrets of peak performance | What you can learn from Tony’s work with the best athletes and coaches in the world
Becoming Michael Phelps | Tony talks to the greatest Olympian of all time about the art of the comeback, what it means to win, and the power of pushing through
From home-business to billion-dollar fitness empire | Orangetheory Fitness’ meteoric rise to the top
The insatiable fight inside UFC’s Dana White | How one man’s passion and vision led the UFC to the ultimate comeback
Timing is everything | Daniel Pink on the best time for meetings, taking breaks and creative breakthroughs
The Unflagging Faith of Nick Foles | How the NFL’s star quarterback overcame his fears and self-doubt to find freedom – and success
The Power of Unity | Tony and Pastor Miles McPherson discuss the third option to healing the racial divide
Shaun White’s Ultimate Redemption | Tony finds out how this Olympian and X-Games champion made a single decision that led him to greatness
Recover your true self | Tony, Russell Brand and Mary B on freeing yourself from the addictions and attachments that control your life
Do you want to be happy? | Tony, Sage and Michael Singer on breaking patterns and finding inner peace
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Is it time to let go? | Making the difficult decision to end a relationship
Are you with the right person? | Tony explains the importance of selecting your partner consciously
The #1 decision you will ever make | Create a life shaped by decisions you control, not conditions that you can’t
Beat work-related stress – forever | Tony shows business owners how transform their most stressful thoughts into fuel for success
Discover your subconscious patterns | Ask this one question and you’ll know why you do the things you do, says Tony
Where can you win? | Tony shows Darcy the power of a niche business that can scale
Break from your painful past | Witness how one victim of unspeakable trauma turns her suffering into joy
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