Shelly and Cam do an abrupt right turn with expectations, from camping in the woods on Phish Tour with Shelly to the environment and demands of work. Wherever there are people there are expectations, and wherever there are expectations there are different interpretations of those expectations. Burnout is actually an indicator of mismanaged expectations. ADHD makes it really tough to distinguish the priority of competing demands, and we often falter when we sense conflicting expectations.
Shelly and Cam explore a few client examples of habitual responses (from last week) and what the clients did to have a different experience with expectations. Using a colorful metaphor from a previous episode of ‘too many tennis balls coming over the net’, Shelly’s client resources her new manager to take a look at all of the end-of-school-year incoming demands and to prioritize and make an action plan for a ‘successful return volley’. The common theme is noticing the expectation and your own response to it. Shifting expectations from an ‘immutable truth’ to actually what it is - a point of engagement for dialogue.
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For more of the Translating ADHD podcast:
Safety ADHD Needs: Creating Relief from Daily Stressors
Physiological ADHD Needs: Distinguishing Brain Awareness
Identifying Unique Needs for Your Unique ADHD Lived Experience
Introducing Asher: Shelly Comes Out as Trans
ADHD, Race and Culture: The Black Man Lived Experience
ADHD, Race and Culture: The Black Woman Lived Experience
ADHD, Race and Culture: The South Asian Lived Experience
ADHD and Your Lived Experience: Modality Sensitivities
ADHD and Your Lived Experience: Processing Modalities
Mulligan
ADHD and Your Lived Experience: Personal Narrative
Is ADHD a Superpower?
Translating ADHD Reflections
ADHD Interplay Overview: Physical Pain
ADHD PoC Voices: Coach Marc Almodovar Shares his Own Story and Discusses Men’s Mental Health
Green Light Planning with ADHD
Managing Expectations in Romantic Relationships with ADHD
Habitual Responses to Expectation with ADHD
Habitual Responses to Time with ADHD
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