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Podcast Episode # 182, a State of Flow

Podcast Episode # 182, a State of FlowWatch on YouTube https://youtu.be/V2PucWzYkOMIt's quite the cycle. Isn't it?The more you move the better you feel.But anxiety and depression stand in the way.It's overwhelming to think of anything different.Like goal setting or even what tomorrow might look like.Because right now, you are completely in survival mode.Yet you KNOW as soon as you make a change.Everything changes, and your life falls into place.It's even better than you can imagine.You just need to start somewhere.Now, you are asking yourself,How can I be ready, when I feel so empty?You know that action is better than non-action.And, the longer you stay in in-action,The bigger the valley you need to climb out of,The bigger the valley, the more you have to believe.Believe in timing, alignment, and a greater purpose,all of which seem impossible while you are in survival mode.This is why you know something needs to change.I get it. I so get it.It's more than going through the motions,It is more than feeling up to itIt's meeting yourself where you arewith Radical Acceptance, Love, and Understanding.Let's get your starting point.Google, Law of Attraction Emotional Guidance scale..When you have established routines in your day, you are free from thinking about what to do next, what your goals for the day should be, and so on.That freedom allows you to get into a state of flow in whatever activity you have set aside time to do for some particular block of time.Are you ready to RISE ABOVE the excuses,and discover your path to health and happiness?You are in the right place!Start with the Alignment Assessment, and we'll go from thereThen, apply these tactical applications to your life and see what changes.Stretch Rather Than ChaseFind Adult Electives and Have FunReject Scarcity and ExcessOnce you start stretching your current resources, you’ll realize that there are unnecessary things in your life that are causing you to think that you don’t have enough. You can rid yourself of physical clutter, and that can oftentimes clear your mental and emotional clutter.Today, I want to challenge you to approach your life with the perspective of abundance and begin stretching your resources. I want you to find a starting place and do it. Maybe your starting place involves getting rid of clutter in your home so that you can better utilize your living space, or maybe you need to take a hard look at how you use your time so that you can do more fulfilling things with it.Now is the time for you to stretch rather than chase. I believe that if people adopt this mentality of doing more with what they have rather than chasing new things, they can drastically improve themselves and society. People would be satisfied with what they have rather than think that they need more.Friends, you can do this!You can approach your life with the mentality that you do have enough.You can live in a state of flow,If you need additional help approaching your life with abundance and removing “I don’t have enough of …” from your vocabulary, I encourage you to get on the waitlist for our next Coach in your Pocket program! In this program, I work with people in a more personal and organized approach to help them overcome their perspective of scarcity and unlock their full potential! If you’re not sure where to start in accessing a perspective of abundance, then you should check out my 21 Days to a Smiling Reflection program.Remember, you’ll never be satisfied if you live with the “never enough” mentality. Do more with what you have and live in abundance rather than scarcity!Thanks for listening,Be sure to like, follow & subscribe to hear more of these podcasts, or shows. Sending you so much love, and kisses.Go forward in life with a twinkle in your eye, a smile on your face, and a strong purpose in your heart, all while being in a state of flow,Believe me, you are so worth it!See you on the inside.~ Sonya, xohttps://linktr.ee/sonyajanisse

Podcast Episode #181- Keep expectations low, then shine.

Podcast Episode #181Keep expectations low, then shine.Join us on YouTube here - Our expectations play a profound role in our daily contentment.In the book Engineering Happiness, it is discovered that the fundamental equation of wellbeing: happiness equals reality minus expectations. I’m sure you’ve all heard this notion before.If you expect more from life than you currently have, you’ll be unhappy.Conversely, if your current experience exceeds your expectations, you’ll be happy.It’s a blessing that you expect nothing because it means that you have no attachment to the output and you can dedicate your full-attention to the input.When we’re too invested in the outcome and we fall short of achieving it, it’s disappointing. That’s a universal response. But that’s not to say we can’t celebrate the wins of life! Of course we can, and we should! But the focus here is we cannot expect them because that will affect the way we go about doing things.Now I must say, I’m not suggesting you don’t have any expectations for anything. I believe there are certain standards you must uphold for yourself and those around you to create your best environment, but I share this perspective because it might help you interrupt the pattern and give you a new way of thinking about your relationship with generating results.Turns out, low expectations are a key to happiness.There is a place for everything, in moderation. Expectations aren’t a bad thing in my view, I think they bring order to our world and keep us from living in our heads.What are your thoughts about expectations? Are yours too high or low? Or are you letting go of expectations altogether?Take Action:This week, reset an expectation: what is a more realistic and joyful goal? Then, refocus on the journey rather than the destination. What mountain can you climb that you will truly enjoy climbing, whether or not you ever make it to the top? How can you focus on the present moment — whatever you are doing right now — rather than setting big goals and high expectations for the future? And if you are itching to do more, why not get into an unambitious habit that down the road can pay big dividends?~Sonya, xoAre you striving to achieve clarity and confidence in your life?Find yourself frustrated from dealing with emotional eating, low energy, and under pressure to eliminate financial stress.Are you committed to accomplishing the promises you make to yourself and find that you are finally tired of living with the excuses and want help tackling it?It's time to take your life from unbearable to unstoppable, as you journey toward accomplishment, success, happiness, and health.Let's chat, book your discovery call here. https://linktr.ee/sonyajanisseDesign your Life, your way Accountability CoachNLP, HWL, PTSAccountability Coach ~ I help you keep your promises to yourself.Taking your life from unbearable to unstoppable. xoAuthor, Podcaster, Certified Coachhttps://linktr.ee/sonyajanissehttps://www.freshapproachfitness.com#podcaster #asksonya #keepyourpromises #awareness #serve #juststart #afreshapproach #chooseyouradventure #books #rediscoveryourself #essentiallyyou #sonyajanisse

Episode #180_Quick Clips_What are you standards

I teach people how to treat me by what I will allow." Stephen Covey Let’s Dig DeeperThe big problem is that most people have it reversed. They have low standards but high expectations. In other words, most people will accept all kinds of bad behavior from other people (low standards), but then they’re pissed that they’re being treated that way (high expectations).If you want a happy and fulfilled life, you’ve got to identify your standards and stick to them while you balance keeping your expectations low. Usually, when I first talk about this concept I get pushback, but give me until the end of this episode and then see what you think.Your standards can also be thought of as your personal code — the rules that you set for yourself and follow in your life. They are also your ongoing processes — habits, behaviours and things you want to be consistently doingExpect and demand more from yourself and from those around you. If you really us. Have a key a change in your life you have to raise your standards, Have a zero tolerance policy for mediocrity, procrastination, and behavior that impedes your best performance.Your standards could be, for example, to always tell the truth, to always be punctual, to really listen to people until they are finished, and so on. Hold yourself to high standards and - what is of the same or even more importance - set boundaries for those around you!Boundaries are things that people simply can't do to you like yelling at you, make stupid jokes around you, or disrespect you. Communicate clearly and make it a habit to address anything that bothers you on the spot.RDetermine where to raise the standardMost of us have numerous areas of life where we could raise our standards. Three of the most common are creating healthy relationships, finding a fulfilling career path and improving our health.RelationshipsYour relationship is a direct reflection of your standards. Some people are in a relationship but they aren’t happy – because their standard is that they must be in any relationship, not that they must be in a relationship with passion and excitement that cultivates pure joy and love. Others may not be in a relationship because their standard is to never get hurt.Career“Your income right now is a result of your standards, it is not the industry, it is not the economy.” If you are not making the money you desire, you haven’t reached the position you want or you are stuck in an unfulfilling career, it’s because your standard is to accept any offer that comes your way. Raise your standards, and you’ll raise your worth.HealthOur health is also the result of our standards. Many people wish they were thinner, healthier or more fit. But expecting something and willing it is not the same thing. You must raise the standard for your health by making it a “must.” Tell yourself that you must get healthy in order to lead an extraordinary life.How can you raise your standards?Step one: Determine how you think about yourselfStep two: Break through your limiting beliefsAction Steps:Write down the following things:Things you will no longer accept in your life.All the behaviors you will no longer tolerate from others.All the things you want to become.Next:Identify Your DealbreakerIdentifying Your StandardsRemember what the proverb says: "In the right tone you can say everything, in the wrong tone nothing, the art is to find the right tone".Practice saying things in a neutral tone of voice like you'd say "the sun is shining" If somebody is overstepping your boundaries inform them: "I didn't like that comment" or "I don't like you talking to me in that tone". If they go on, request them to stop: "I ask you to stop talking to me like this". By now most people should get it, but there are always one or two that continue. If that happens - insist: "I insist that you stop talking to me in that way." If all three steps don't help - leave! Walk away neutrally stating "I can't have this conversation, while you are Let's talk later."Be sure to subscribe, like and comment to see a Fresh Approach show up in your feed :)👉Book a connect call here www.calendly.com/sonyajanisse👉Membership group, 'Essentially You'Register here- https://forms.gle/Fm383zkcVbAtbqGp9xx,Sonya#asksonya #afreshapproach #nervoussystem #actingasif #essentiallyyou #lifecoach #lifestyleblogger #quickclips #sonyajanisse #podcaster #knowyourself #storytime #celebrateeverything #whatisyourstandard

Heart to heart ~ Re/Discover Yourself, Episode #179... Part II

Thank you for joining us for part IIIn today's heart-to-heart we have a Special Guest - Tanya Leake with us, Tanya is sharing what it is like to Re/Discover Yourself.Catch the heart to heart, on YouTubehttps://youtu.be/es23hDm3SDsFollow along as we chat about the 80/20 rule and how it applies to impacting other people's lives.In today's episode, we chat about:Tanya's S.E.R.V.E. Best Interests model which can be used to assess what serves you (and enables you to prioritize yourself.) Throughout the podcast, we will go over:Choosing your own adventure when it comes to health and happinessWhat it is like to have hardship in the areas of health and wellnessHow impacting people's lives is a labour of loveJournalling Defining S.E.R.V.E and how it applies to your life.Books, Books, Books!You all know that I am a BIG geek, so I am always quick to recommend a book or two.In this episode, we highlighted the books "The Artist Way" and "The Feeling is the Secret."A special shout-out to the song Rose Garden ...I beg your pardonI never promised you a rose gardenAlong with the sunshineThere's gotta be a little rain sometimeI've always loved this song and the punchyness of the lyrics.What an amazing episode, with so much to unpack!!Tanya's bio, in her own wordsTanya is a Stanford engineer and IT consultant turned Board-Certified Health & BeingWELL coach living and teaching high-level wellness & deep self-loveA greens-eating, loud-laughing, dance-performing, recipe-trying, self-loving coach passionate about supporting others in re/discovering their best, healthiest selves and a graduate of Stanford University’s Engineering Program, I am a National Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach (NBC-HWC), group fitness, Zumba and 200-hour RYT yoga licensed instructor, dance performer and choreographer, Laughter Yoga leader, workshop facilitator, presenter, public speaker and self-published author of GET A GGRiPP: The Health and Wellness Movement Rooted in Cultural Traditions, and an upcoming second book, Vegetablarian: A Mouthful.A proud advocate of women's health, I currently serve as the co-lead of the Research Committee on the Board of Directors of The White Dress Project, a uterine fibroid advocacy organization, and founder of the women's health initiative WeKNOW (Women embracing Knowledge Necessary for Our Wellness) and its conversation series #coochieconversations.Under my wellness business, EmBODY WELL, I am also the creator of the women's self-love EmBODY LOVE framework and retreat and the co-creator of The Mirror Board: Reflections of YOU concept and PLAYshop.Although my expertise is in health and wellness, I enjoy talking about topics across a broad range of interests because I can ALWAYS connect them to some element of health and wellbeing. (which I demonstrate most episodes of the podcast No Stupid Questions Show with my cohost and fellow Stanford alum, James A Gray, aka JAG)Tanya, thanks so much for joining us! ~Sonya, xoAre you striving to achieve clarity and confidence in your life?Find yourself frustrated from dealing with emotional eating, low energy, and under pressure to eliminate financial stress.Are you committed to accomplishing the promises you make to yourself and find that you are finally tired of living with the excuses and want help tackling it?It's time to take your life from unbearable to unstoppable, as you journey toward accomplishment, success, happiness, and health.Let's chat, book your discovery call here. https://linktr.ee/sonyajanisseDesign your Life, your way Accountability CoachNLP, HWL, PTSAccountability Coach ~ I help you keep your promises to yourself.Taking your life from unbearable to unstoppable. xoAuthor, Podcaster, Certified Coachhttps://linktr.ee/sonyajanisse#podcaster #asksonya #keepyourpromises #awareness #serve #juststart #afreshapproach #chooseyouradventure #books #rediscoveryourself #essentiallyyou #sonyajanisse #coochieconversations

Heart to heart ~ Re/Discover Yourself, Episode #179 Part I

In today's heart-to-heart we have a Special Guest - Tanya Leake with us, Tanya is sharing what it is like to Re/Discover Yourself.Catch the heart to heart, on YouTubehttps://youtu.be/RTrj3y9vMU4Follow along as we chat about the 80/20 rule and how it applies to impacting other people's lives.In today's episode, we chat about:Tanya's S.E.R.V.E. Best Interests model which can be used to assess what serves you (and enables you to prioritize yourself.) Throughout the podcast, we will go over:Choosing your own adventure when it comes to health and happinessWhat it is like to have hardship in the areas of health and wellnessHow impacting people's lives is a labour of loveJournalling Defining S.E.R.V.E and how it applies to your life.Books, Books, Books!You all know that I am a BIG geek, so I am always quick to recommend a book or two.In this episode, we highlighted the books "The Artist Way" and "The Feeling is the Secret."A special shout-out to the song Rose Garden ...I beg your pardonI never promised you a rose gardenAlong with the sunshineThere's gotta be a little rain sometimeI've always loved this song and the punchyness of the lyrics.What an amazing episode, with so much to unpack!!Tanya's bio, in her own wordsTanya is a Stanford engineer and IT consultant turned Board-Certified Health & BeingWELL coach living and teaching high-level wellness & deep self-loveA greens-eating, loud-laughing, dance-performing, recipe-trying, self-loving coach passionate about supporting others in re/discovering their best, healthiest selves and a graduate of Stanford University’s Engineering Program, I am a National Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach (NBC-HWC), group fitness, Zumba and 200-hour RYT yoga licensed instructor, dance performer and choreographer, Laughter Yoga leader, workshop facilitator, presenter, public speaker and self-published author of GET A GGRiPP: The Health and Wellness Movement Rooted in Cultural Traditions, and an upcoming second book, Vegetablarian: A Mouthful.A proud advocate of women's health, I currently serve as the co-lead of the Research Committee on the Board of Directors of The White Dress Project, a uterine fibroid advocacy organization, and founder of the women's health initiative WeKNOW (Women embracing Knowledge Necessary for Our Wellness) and its conversation series #coochieconversations.Under my wellness business, EmBODY WELL, I am also the creator of the women's self-love EmBODY LOVE framework and retreat and the co-creator of The Mirror Board: Reflections of YOU concept and PLAYshop.Although my expertise is in health and wellness, I enjoy talking about topics across a broad range of interests because I can ALWAYS connect them to some element of health and wellbeing. (which I demonstrate most episodes of the podcast No Stupid Questions Show with my cohost and fellow Stanford alum, James A Gray, aka JAG)Tanya, thanks so much for joining us! ~Sonya, xoAre you striving to achieve clarity and confidence in your life?Find yourself frustrated from dealing with emotional eating, low energy, and under pressure to eliminate financial stress.Are you committed to accomplishing the promises you make to yourself and find that you are finally tired of living with the excuses and want help tackling it?It's time to take your life from unbearable to unstoppable, as you journey toward accomplishment, success, happiness, and health.Let's chat, book your discovery call here. https://linktr.ee/sonyajanisseDesign your Life, your way Accountability CoachNLP, HWL, PTSAccountability Coach ~ I help you keep your promises to yourself.Taking your life from unbearable to unstoppable. xoAuthor, Podcaster, Certified Coachhttps://linktr.ee/sonyajanissehttps://www.freshapproachfitness.com#podcaster #asksonya #keepyourpromises #awareness #serve #juststart #afreshapproach #chooseyouradventure #books #rediscoveryourself #essentiallyyou #sonyajanisse