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32. Love Yourself

The Relationship with Yourself Relationship Boosters Podcast Episode 32 Interview with: Love Coach Dani Spikes An essential component in your relationship Love yourself The journey is self-love is on your own, and it will impact the connection in your relationships. Men and women both can experience problems related to self-love. Women need to better themselves to become better wives just as men need to better themselves to become better husbands Loving yourself includes developing Self-worth and Self-value. Some major components in self-love Learn to forgive yourself Be ok with putting yourself Know your own truth Take away points It is impossible to love anyone else if you do not know how to love yourself. Follow the link below to find out more about Love Coach Dani Spikes and The Spiked Brunch www.iamdanispikes.com

31 .Don’t allow your past relationship to ruin your current relationship

  Don’t allow your past relationship to ruin your current relationship Relationship Boosters Podcast Episode 31 Chats with Dr. Kia James and Monika Cope-Ward There is a reason why your Ex is your Ex In this week’s podcast we discussed how you can bring your past relationship into your current relationship.  This can happen so quickly and so easily.  Make sure you consider the consequences when you open the door to an ex.  Additionally, be aware that your current behavior may be the result of previous interactions with an ex-lover.  Review and analyze your current behavior.  If your current behavior has the potential to hold your lover responsible for the actions of an ex, it is time to change your behavior. Ways your Ex Can Be Present and Problematic in Your Current Relationship? Social Media Stalking your Ex can be tempting, but this can cause major damage to your current relationship When there are problems in your current relationship, a friendship with your ex may be questioned. If there is unfinished business in your previous relationship, this can wreak havoc on your current relationship. Keeping the lines of communication open can be problematic to your current relationship Comparing your significant other to your ex is a major fail Don’t compare life to death Make sure you do not ruin your current relationship by living in the past.  Don’t hold your current significant other responsible for the behavior of an ex.  They do not deserve the consequences from someone else’s behavior.  It also does not help you create a happy healthy bond in your current relationship.

30: Protect Your Relationship

Protect Your Relationship Relationship Boosters Podcast Episode 30 Chats with Monika and Kia Affair Prevention Don’t be the victim of an “After School Special” of relationships. You are not the exclusion to being in a relationship where an affair can occur. What is an affair An affair is Any external factor that comes between you and your partner. For the purpose of this podcast, the focus is on an emotional or sexual connection with another person. Factors That Lead to an Affair Stinking thinking is a set up for an affair. Your thought process will definitely leave a gap in your relationship for an affair to occur. There are a few mindsets that can leave your relationship especially vulnerable. Thinking that your vows are enough to save your relationship is not realistic. You have to regularly work on your relationship to continuously strengthen your bond. Putting your partner on a pedestal is a sure set up for failure. No one is perfect, and having unrealistic expectation of perfection can cause stress to your partner and your relationship. This can set your partner up to be secretive. When they are expected to be “flawless,” being able to discuss and be open about their flaws becomes more difficult. Believing that you could never have an affair is the ultimate set up. When you believe that you are the special human who is not vulnerable, you are more prone to allow yourself to engage in behavior that can get out of control quickly Remember, just because you communicate your vows to someone does not mean that they will respect you or your vows. In fact, your “friend” may be waiting and plotting to get into a relationship with you. Avoiding confrontation and disagreements is a no-no. You and your partner need to have productive conversations to discuss problems in your relationship. The lack of open conversation will lead to relationship stress. If you are in a relationship, an affair is possible. Protect your relationship today. Don’t wait for stress to attack your relationship and open the door to an affair. For more information on Affair Prevention, check out our Affair Prevention Webinar.

29: Criticism

Criticism Relationship Boosters Podcast Episode 29 Dr. Kia James A Communication Killer Criticism is not keeping it real, It is an attack of your partner. As opposed to stating that you have a concern, you attack your partner by stating that they have a character flaw. You tell your partner, “something is wrong with you.” as opposed to stating that you have a problem about a specific situation or event. The recipient of the criticism many times feels disrespected. Criticism shuts down communication Criticism many time starts with the statement you always or you never. You always make a mess. You never take out the trash. Being critical leads to high level conflict We all have complaints I am not saying that you should not communicate your complaints. What I am saying is that you should not justify an attack of your partner due to you being dissatisfied with a situation. A complaint allows your partner to know what you like and don’t like. It opens the door for more communication. You are sharing facts about a specific event or a situation. Sticking to the facts helps. Attack defend cycle Being brutally honest without tact does not communicate that you are attempting to solve a problem. This type of critical communication many times puts your partner in a defensive place.  This derails the conversation and problems are not solved.  Take responsibility for yourself and your behavior.  If you want to have effective communication, don’t begin a conversation in a way that will be unproductive.  If you need additional assistance, check out our mini-course Avoid Turning a Disagreement into an Argument. More Resources Don’t Miss The Couples Breakaway Cruise: Our upcoming cruise on the Norwegian Breakaway leaves from NY on September 17th - 24th. We will have a couple’s workshop, 3 DJ’s from NY, 5 Private Parties, All You Can Eat, All You Can Drink, and much, much, more.   The current price includes all gratuities, taxes, and fees. DON’T MISS THE BOAT! Building Your Extraordinary Relationship: As relationship counselors and coaches, we have packages to help you improve your relationship. If your relationship is in need of a jump start or relationship repair, contact us and we will be glad to help with boosting your relationship. Events Workshops and Retreats: “Improve Your Relationship & Have an Enjoyable “Couples Playdate” Retreat Style. We recognize the need for couples to continue to enhance their relationship. We host couples retreats and teach couples skills to enhance their relationship. We would love to see you at one of our upcoming events. Thank You for Listening Thank you for taking the time to listen to this week’s podcast. If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with other couples, friends, or your partner using the social media buttons on this page. Please consider leaving an honest rating and review for the podcast on iTunes.  This helps the podcast reach more couples who want to build an extraordinary relationship

28: What Do Men Want in Relationships

What Do Men Want in Relationships Podcast Episode 28 Interview with Panama Jackson the co-founder of Very Smart Brothas (VSB) A Male Perspective on Relationships Get the show notes for todays episode:  www.RelationshipBoosters.com