Stop Striving to be an Alpha Male: It's Sabotaging Your Life

Do you ever wish you were more alpha? 

It’s a big buzzword thrown around in forums by bitter and resentful men. And if you keep striving to be more alpha, you’ll suffocate your relationships, suppress your emotions, and sabotage your happiness. 

Why? 

Because the pop culture view of the alpha male couldn’t be further from the truth about how real alphas operate. It’s not about being feared or dominating, it’s about leading with compassion, connection, and empathy. 

If you want to be a true alpha and embody real masculinity, you have to stop striving to be an alpha. It’s counterintuitive, but effective. 

In today’s show, I debunk the myth of the alpha male, explain how striving to be more alpha leads you down a destructive and isolating path, and reveal how to embody a healthier, truer version of masculinity that leads to lasting happiness and fulfillment—both in your relationships and your life. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The insidious “Fake Alpha Male” trap men fall into when they frequent forums that leads you down a destructive and isolating path (0:31) 
• Why true alpha males are actually the most empathetic, most protective of the weak, and the ultimate peace keepers (2:26) 
• The root causes of wanting to be a toxic alpha male (and how addressing them leads to a happier, more fulfilled life) (6:59)  
• Why striving to be seen as an alpha male automatically means you’re not (and how to be ok with yourself even when you’re not admired, respected, or feared) (12:51) 
• How your desperation to be an alpha male suffocates your relationships, suppresses your emotions, and sabotages your happiness (17:44) 
• The “Aragorn” secret for embodying a healthier and truer version of masculinity (28:12) 

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