Hot Mess Express to Mindful Mom Workshop: Day Two

I want to ask you if any of these questions feel like you?

1. You are overwhelmed at the end of each day
2. Completely reactive with no control of your life
3. Triggered to the point of tears and unsure why
4. Feeling resentful and then feeling guilty because of it!
5. Mom guilt, wife guilt, all the guilt…
6. You snap at your spouse and your children often (and if we are honest - for no real reason)

As moms, we carry the weight of the world on our shoulders.  This is just a fact.  Period.  So, if we wake up each morning in a harried mess, running late, fussing at the kids, and now we are irritated with ourselves for oversleeping, and then it’s the snowball effect.  we are already starting the day on the wrong foot and the rest of the day is predicted to be a big ball of poop.  Right?    Someone already tinkled in your oatmeal sister!!

Your day is off to a grand start and it’s not even 8 am.  From this point, you have a million things on your to-do list  - multiple Zoom meetings for work, kids either to school or settled in for online school, hey mom can you get this, I’m hungry...Fill in the blank here with about 100 other to-do’s.  You give, give, and give some more.  

But I want you to ask yourself this question - aside from the things you do for your family and your home, are you happy with your other commitments?  Are you giving of your time in other ways that do not fill your cup?  Sure, some of us work and some of us don’t but I want you to think about the EXTRA commitments on your plate.  

Do they fill your emotional cup or do they take away from it?  Are you doing this because you feel like you are supposed to?  Because at some time in your life, you were led to believe that in order to be a good mom, you must volunteer for every event, fundraiser, or board position.   

 I want to encourage you to start by making a list of your non-negotiables.  What are the things that are most important to you?  Write them down.  

Having these non-negotiables allows me to be present and focused on my kids when they get out of bed.  I don’t want to start my day in a chaotic way and I can help them to start their day in as calm of a way as possible but let’s be realistic here.  They are hormonal and the sound of my breathing can piss them off.   Am I right or am I right??? LOL!!  

Next, I want you to think about all of your daily tasks  Write them down.  Create different boxes/bubbles/lists and label them:  Home, Work, Me, Etc.  

Creating systems and routines will reduce anxiety and reduce stress levels.  Maybe you meal plan on Sunday, make lunches the night before, set out your workout clothes the night before, or unload the dishwasher while your oatmeal is cooking.  Really dig into what your day looks like and how you can lump all of the similar things together into blocks.  I have work blocks, family blocks, Lis blocks, and cleaning blocks.

If you are feeling overwhelmed with where to even start, I want you to know that I can help you.  Together we can map out a plan that will prove that 2021 is going to be your best year.  I am praying that you will find peace in your life and know that if you need guidance, I am here.  

Grab your coffee, your tea, your wine, and let’s chat.  Send me an email or DM me on Email:  hello@yestoless.life
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 I’m sending you so much love,

Lis