Ep #72 How to Build Resilience

One thing we know is that trials have a clarifying effect on us. Things start to make sense, solutions to long-ago problems emerge, and we create new resolutions. But this only happens if you have a mindset of expectancy, one that is looking for precious gems. And we can only get into that mental space if we are resilient. In this episode, I share some tips on building your resilience. If it has ever made logical sense for you to quit- but you didn't, that was your muscle of strength being strengthened.

 

1. Agree with yourself not to quit. If you do, it will be easier to make sense of the season, and stopping will be logical. You don't just become resilient during failure; you decide ahead of time to get up and thrive if and when you fail.
2. Look for reasons to keep going. If you have been listening to this podcast, you'd have heard me say your path is sprinkled with the resources you need to keep going; inside you are your gifts, and all around you are the resources. But you will also find reasons to give up on your path. And because of our natural aversion to pain and discomfort, the reasons to stop will be more obvious. Please keep your eyes searching for reasons to keep going, then grab it with both hands when you find them.
3. Globalise your pain. You are not the only one going through challenges. Setting up your pain against the backdrop of the world will do two things. -You will recognise just how blessed you are because there's always someone going through something you know you can't even handle, and you will get on with living as you realise you aren't the only one going through this challenge. And this is life.

 

We seek comfort, not pain. It is the desire of most people to be comfortable. We rank convenience over purpose, and when given the option, most of us will choose comfort if chasing the ideal is difficult. The more willing we are, the more opportunity we will get to practice resilience.

 

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