Across school campuses and communities, students and educators are discovering how listening, curiosity, and everyday conversations can open pathways across differences and help restore a sense of shared humanity.Summary: How do we learn to truly communicate with people who are deeply different than us? In this episode of The Science of Happiness, we follow students and educators practicing the skills of empathy and courageous listening in classrooms and on the road. Their experiences reveal how intentional conversations can open unexpected pathways toward understanding and...
Across school campuses and communities, students and educators are discovering how listening, curiosity, and everyday conversations can open pathways across differences and help restore a sense of shared humanity.
Summary: How do we learn to truly communicate with people who are deeply different than us? In this episode of The Science of Happiness, we follow students and educators practicing the skills of empathy and courageous listening in classrooms and on the road. Their experiences reveal how intentional conversations can open unexpected pathways toward understanding and shared humanity.
How To Do This Practice:
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Observe Before You Interpret: Spend a few minutes noticing the environment around you and ask yourself: What do people here see, hear, say, think, and need?
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Approach with Curiosity: Start with simple human connection—small talk, a question about their day, or genuine interest in their community.
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Signal That You're There to Listen: Make it clear your goal is understanding, not persuading, debating, or changing anyone's mind.
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Practice Democratic Listening: Give your full attention through eye contact, nodding, and brief acknowledgments, while resisting the urge to agree, disagree, or jump in with your own views.
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Stay Relaxed Through Discomfort: When differences emerge, maintain "relaxed awareness"—remaining open, attentive, and calm rather than defensive or reactive.
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Reflect and Learn: Afterward, ask yourself: What helped create connection? What got in the way? What might I try differently next time?
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Today’s Guests:
JESSE KELLY is a McNair and MacArthur fellow and a recent graduate of Bowie State University, Maryland's oldest historically black university.
Learn more about Jesse Kelly here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessekellyjr/
LIA HOWARD is the director of the Political Empathy Lab at the University of Pennsylvania.
Learn more about Lia Howards here: https://snfpaideia.upenn.edu/people/lia-howard/
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