If you're someone who judges yourself harshly and says things like, "I just don't have any willpower", or "I can't stick with anything for long enough to make it work" then this episode is for you.
There's so much more to behaviour than meets the eye and it's easy to think we're at fault when can't stick with behaviours until they become habit.
What few of us realise is that all of our habits developed in the context of our environments - so they're shaped by how we were raised, what we were taught, how we learned to fit in and belong, how we learned to manage our emotions...and a thousand other things.
Not only that but our current environment changes how we feel about the behaviour in the moment of deciding whether or not to do it.
When I'm working to help my clients change their behaviour in order to be happier, healthier and more productive, I teach them my B=SET behaviour change model to help them understand the many factors at play in driving their behavioural choices. I touch on the model briefly in this episode.
B=SETIt stands for Behaviour = State + Environment + Time
State - How you're thinking and feeling in that moment
Environment - Everything and everyone around you.
Time - Your history with that behaviour and where you're focusing your attention (in the past, present or future)
Much more on this model in later episodes!
EnvironmentThis week I talk about how, if you want to live a healthier, happier life, you're almost definitely going to have to "swim against the tide" of your environment.
This is exhausting and requires enormous willpower - which is a finite resource.
The key to behaviour change, therefore, lies is your ability to either disconnect from your environmental influences or shape them in your favour.
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Show notes available at bighappylife.co.uk
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Ep 100. Birthday musings on joyful living
Ep 99. Sometimes getting unstuck is easy
Ep 98. When and How to Think like an Optimist
Ep 97. The Unexpected Benefits of Pessimistic Thinking
Ep 96. How the stories we tell ourselves can rob us of our success
Ep 95. Are you rubber cement?
Ep 94. Selfish, Selfless or Spiritual - with Tess Vergara
Ep. 93 Connecting to something bigger with Tanya Hackney
Ep 92. Four ways to be well
Ep 91. What does it take to make your brain happy?
Ep 90. Four Pillars of Mental Wellness
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Ep 88. Some emotions are like an old fridge
Ep 86. The power of mindset in business success - with Kirsty Kamarauskas
Ep 85. Continuous Glucose Monitors - Why every woman over 40 could benefit from using one at least once
Ep. 84 Measuring your Wellness - with Evelyn Pacitti
Ep. 83 Are you too comfortable?
Ep. 82 Live the Life you tell your kids is possible
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