We’ve talked a lot on the show about postpartum depression, but there’s another condition that new moms experience that carries much shame, and no one talks about it. It’s called postpartum regret, and it’s that feeling of dissatisfaction and unhappiness with the demands of motherhood and the changes that come with this life transition. We’re talking about how to identify this condition and what to do to pull yourself through it.
Marissa Zwetow is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in prenatal and postpartum counseling. Marissa became passionate about helping mothers prepare and adjust to a new baby after experiencing postpartum depression. She understands what it takes to be on a healing journey to find acceptance, meaning, and happiness in the role of motherhood.
Show Highlights:
Marissa’s personal journey as she struggled with the transition into motherhood and knew she needed help How she identified postpartum regret as the feeling of regret at becoming a mother, but no one was talking about it How the shame, embarrassment, struggle, and disappointment can lead to postpartum depression Why Marissa wanted validation for herself and other moms who hated being a mom and were saying, “I don’t like this” How she went through an identity crisis in becoming a mom A look at Marissa’s 12 Taboo Postpartum Truths: Lack of bond with the baby during the “golden hour” A baby that’s not easily soothed Breastfeeding is not always wonderful A mother may experience grief for her past life Why Marissa wishes she would have sought help and taken antidepressants sooner Solutions to postpartum regret: Find your tribe and know that you’re not alone Get help any way you can Redefine what being a mother is to YOU Why moms need permission to figure out how they can best show up in parenting that works for themResources:
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Marissa’s books: Postpartum Happiness: What to do when you love the kids but hate the job
12 Taboo Postpartum Truths: What you may need to know, but probably haven’t been told
345: A New Father’s Experience Through His Wife’s Postpartum Psychosis with Tony Pacitti
344: Comparing Yourself to Others with Dr. Kat
343: Innovative Trauma Informed Care for High-Risk Pregnancy with Parijat Deshpande
342: "Rattled" How to Calm New Mom Anxiety with Nicole Amoyal Pensak, Ph. D., PMH-C
341: Behind the Sessions: Becoming a Parent When You Had Difficult Parents
340: Perinatal Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) with Roxanne Rosenberg, LCMHC, PMH-C
339: Perinatal Health Anxiety with Michelle Flynn, MA, MIACP
338: Behind The Sessions: Returning to Work After a Perinatal Mental Health Condition with Dr. Kat
337: Evidence Based Birth®️ with Dr. Rebecca Dekker
336: In Conversation with Alanis Morissette and Postpartum Support International
335: Behind The Sessions: Communication Challenges After Baby Comes Home with Dr. Kat
334: A Therapist’s Postpartum OCD and How Shame Prevents Seeking Help with Ellen Chance, Ph.D.
333: Understanding Why You Feel Rage with Bianca Sprague
332: Behind The Sessions: Emotional Impacts of Infertility and Treatments
331: A Mom's Journey Through Neurodivergence and Perinatal Mental Health
330: How a Mom Can Stop "Doing It All" with Dr. Whitney Casares, MD
329: Behind The Sessions: The Healing Journey: Understanding the Ups and Downs
328: Autism and ADHD Diagnoses in Motherhood with Dr. Kiley Hanish, OTD, OTR/L, PMH-C
327: Mothering Without a Mother with Dr. Olivia Wedel, LPC, NCC, PMH-C
326: Behind The Sessions: Why Are We So Hard On Ourselves?
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