Covert narcissism is messed up! It is so twisted you feel like you are going insane just trying to get a grasp on what’s going on. It is so hard to pinpoint and impossible to describe. You can’t possibly explain it to someone who hasn’t experienced it themselves. Trying to makes you sound crazy, even to yourself. So now you question your own sanity. It is mind-boggling and exhausting. Many victims collapse into a pile of nothing and give up. I don’t blame them. I have been there many times. I know that pain firsthand.
The covert narcissist is a master at appearing innocent, kind, compassionate, generous, sincere, benevolent, and much more. To the world, they look not only normal, but even better. They could convince Mother Teresa that they are the perfect spouse. Yet underneath that, in the most subtle ways, they treat people with contempt, disregard, hatred, condescension, disdain, antipathy, and much more. I felt like one minute I understood and the very next it was gone. It was like I was trying to grasp the wind. One minute it made sense, and the next minute I had no idea.
If I was struggling this much to understand it, how in the world could I expect my friends to understand it. So why do we try SO hard to understand? Why do we research like crazy? Googling, reading, listening, watching. I didn’t work this hard when I was in school, and I was a dedicated student. But this? This I was absorbing 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, trying so hard to figure out what was going on and why.
Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Mirroring
Story of Hope: Learning to Protect Yourself Part One
Narcissistic Mirroring
Stories of Hope: From Overt Narcissism to Covert Narcissism
Covert Narcissists are Chameleons
Story of Hope: From the Suffocating Dark Cloud of Narcissism to the Brightness and Peace
”You did that ON PURPOSE!” The Hurt Feelings of a Covert Narcissist
Story of Hope: Surviving the Crash of a Fairy Tale Marriage
Story of Hope after Covert Narcissism
The Narcissist’s Prayer Pt 2 (Special Throwback Episode)
It’s Impossible to Find Normal with a Covert Narcissist
The Narcissist’s Prayer Part 1 (Special Throwback Episode)
How to Set Boundaries with a Covert Narcissist
Episode 5 - How Do We Turn the Survival Skills Off? (Special Throwback Episode)
Why is it so Hard to Set Boundaries with a Covert Narcissist?
Episode 4 - The Survival Skills of a Covert Narcissist and their Victim (Special Throwback Episode)
Walking on Eggshells
Episode 3 Tactical Responses to the Trauma of Abuse (Special Throwback Episode)
Learning on the Appalachian Trail
Episode 2 - Internal Trauma Responses to Covert Abuse (Special Throwback Episode)
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