Covert narcissism is messed up! It is so twisted you feel like you are going insane just trying to get a grasp on what’s going on. It is so hard to pinpoint and impossible to describe. You can’t possibly explain it to someone who hasn’t experienced it themselves. Trying to makes you sound crazy, even to yourself. So now you question your own sanity. It is mind-boggling and exhausting. Many victims collapse into a pile of nothing and give up. I don’t blame them. I have been there many times. I know that pain firsthand.
The covert narcissist is a master at appearing innocent, kind, compassionate, generous, sincere, benevolent, and much more. To the world, they look not only normal, but even better. They could convince Mother Teresa that they are the perfect spouse. Yet underneath that, in the most subtle ways, they treat people with contempt, disregard, hatred, condescension, disdain, antipathy, and much more. I felt like one minute I understood and the very next it was gone. It was like I was trying to grasp the wind. One minute it made sense, and the next minute I had no idea.
If I was struggling this much to understand it, how in the world could I expect my friends to understand it. So why do we try SO hard to understand? Why do we research like crazy? Googling, reading, listening, watching. I didn’t work this hard when I was in school, and I was a dedicated student. But this? This I was absorbing 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, trying so hard to figure out what was going on and why.
The Point of No Return
Episode 1 - Reactive Abuse: The Physical and Outward Reactions of Victims (Special Throwback Episode)
Narcissistic Relationships are Addictive Relationships
How to Save Our Kids During a Traumatic Divorce with a Narcissist
The Power of Perception and Gaslighting
Guest episode on Pathological Lying
Narcissistic Rage and Narcissistic Simmer
I Lost Myself to a Covert Narcissist (Special Throwback Episode)
The Religious Covert Narcissist
How Does This Get Better (Special Throwback Episode)
The Power of Destructive Messages
Covert Narcissists See Their World Through a Filter of Anger (Special Throwback Episode)
Why did I Put Up With This for So Long?
Two Things You Should Never Say to a Victim of Covert Narcissism (Special Throwback Episode)
Emotional Abuse is Physical
Interview by Ross Rosenberg, part two
Out of alignment: Time to reclaim your mental space
Interview by Ross Rosenberg, Part One
Gaslighting Our Kids is Damaging
Guilt Manipulation: How a Covert Narcissist Uses Your Own Guilt Against You (Special Throwback Episode)
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