Covert narcissism is messed up! It is so twisted you feel like you are going insane just trying to get a grasp on what’s going on. It is so hard to pinpoint and impossible to describe. You can’t possibly explain it to someone who hasn’t experienced it themselves. Trying to makes you sound crazy, even to yourself. So now you question your own sanity. It is mind-boggling and exhausting. Many victims collapse into a pile of nothing and give up. I don’t blame them. I have been there many times. I know that pain firsthand.
The covert narcissist is a master at appearing innocent, kind, compassionate, generous, sincere, benevolent, and much more. To the world, they look not only normal, but even better. They could convince Mother Teresa that they are the perfect spouse. Yet underneath that, in the most subtle ways, they treat people with contempt, disregard, hatred, condescension, disdain, antipathy, and much more. I felt like one minute I understood and the very next it was gone. It was like I was trying to grasp the wind. One minute it made sense, and the next minute I had no idea.
If I was struggling this much to understand it, how in the world could I expect my friends to understand it. So why do we try SO hard to understand? Why do we research like crazy? Googling, reading, listening, watching. I didn’t work this hard when I was in school, and I was a dedicated student. But this? This I was absorbing 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, trying so hard to figure out what was going on and why.
The Wounds from Childhood
Just Hard to Relax - Living in a Courtroom with a Covert Narcissist (Special Throwback Episode)
Conditioned to Accept Their Behavior
Q&A Session on Parenting With a Toxic Partner (Special Throwback Episode)
Emotional Childishness of Covert Narcissists
Shouldn’t I Just Be Grateful that it isn’t Worse? (Special Throwback Episode)
How Do You Handle the Guilt?
Clinging To The Breadcrumbs (Special Throwback Episode)
Learning from a Covert Narcissist
Why Do I Wonder if I am the Narcissist? (Special Throwback Episode)
Complex PTSD and Covert Narcissistic Abuse
No Reconciliation Ever with a Covert Narcissist (Throwback Episode)
It’s a Great Deal For Them
Why Can’t Covert Narcissists Give In Communication And What To Do About It (Throwback Episode)
It Would Have Just Been Easier If..
The Agonizing Lack of Give in a Covert Narcissist (Throwback Episode)
Signs that They are NOT a Narcissist
8 Signs of Circular Conversations from a Covert Narcissist Part 2 (Throwback Episode)
Fracturing Ourselves for the Covert Narcissist
8 Signs of Circular Conversations from a Covert Narcissist Part 1 (Throwback Episode)
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