Next time you fall into a self-doubt spiral full of negative self-talk getting you nowhere - try this! Use the 'principled negotiation' technique espoused by Fisher and Ury (expert negotiators) - to negotiate with your emotions and inner chat!
In this episode I explore two of the ingredients of 'principled negotiation' - Separate the people from the problem - and - Focus on interests not positions - and flip them to a negotiation with your own thoughts/emotions/assumptions and baggage!
Practical tool - we explore when, why and how to use this technique - on your self!
I wrap up with some powerful quotes from two classic books I've had on my shelf since uni days - referenced below.
Pull yourself up before you fall down the self doubt spiral and achieve - nothing!
PDF transcript on the episode page at trishalewis.com
REFERENCES in this episode:
Getting to Yes - Roger Fisher and William Ury
Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman
Borkovec - research on 'worry'
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Find out more about my communication and confidence coaching services as well as my unsquashing mission (the book, the TEDx) at trishalewis.com.
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