Episode 20: How to Problem Solve Issues: What is Really at Stake

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In this episode, we dive deep into the conflicts that arise in relationships when personal desires clash with deeper emotional needs. It’s not just about the tie, the trip, or feeling ignored—it’s about what’s truly at stake: connection, respect, and autonomy.

If you’ve ever found yourself in an argument over something small, but it escalated into something bigger, this episode is for you. Learn how to navigate these moments without triggering your partner and discover a three-phase process to problem-solve effectively.

Key Topics Discussed:

• What is Control in Relationships?
  • How subtle behaviors and well-meaning actions can come off as controlling.
  • The difference between influencing and controlling your partner.
• How to Identify When You’re Being Controlling
  • Signs that you may be trying to control the situation without realizing it.
  • Questions to ask yourself to avoid unintentionally stifling your partner’s autonomy.
• The Value of Speaking and Listening Without Jumping to Solutions
  • Why it’s essential to define the problem first before rushing to solve it.
  • Techniques for speaking and listening that foster connection, not conflict.
• The Three Phases of Problem-Solving in Relationships