Annie and Melisa are two women who have experienced deep marital betrayal in their relationship. The signs weren’t always clear as to what was actually going on, but when the wool had been pulled over their eyes, the amount of emotions, judgment, and pain they experienced took a long time to recover from. This episode is part two of these two women sharing their very personal story of how they found out about their husbands’ addictions and how they got through it.
TAKEAWAYS:
[3:15] Hindsight is 20/20. These are real and raw emotions and unfortunately, it’s difficult to hide or protect your children from what’s happening within your household.
[4:20] Melisa shares the reactions her friends and family had after they realized what was going on in her marriage.
[4:45] Annie found out that she had friends who loved her, but this topic was very difficult for them to handle.
[6:45] Did Annie’s husband’s porn use affect their intimate life?
[12:55] When Melisa joined a support group, it was the first time she felt validated and like she wasn’t going through this journey alone.
[23:45] Guess what, an addict can lie to their therapist! And some therapists eat it all up.
[30:50] Melisa knew for many years something was wrong but she just didn’t know what. Those years were painful; to constantly doubt herself.
[33:40] The work betrayed spouses have to go through to heal is very different from what an addict has to go through to make amends.
[39:15] How did Melisa and Annie meet? They’re so grateful for each other and their support!
RESOURCES:
Sex and Relationship Healing
@RobWeissMSW
Sex Addiction 101
Seeking Integrity
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss
Jasonvr.com
Jason on LinkedIn
Get Past Your Past
QUOTES:
“You trust your spouse and it’s something that you never expected to happen. I never expected to find what I found.”
“I knew my friends were trustworthy, but I couldn’t go to my friends and be like, ‘guess what I discovered now’. At least, I couldn’t.”
“I will never be grateful this happened to me, but I am grateful that because it happened to me, I have made life-long friends.”
Part 1: Voices of Hope For, and By, Women Who Have Been Betrayed
Going to Therapy Doesn’t Have to Be Impossible with Jason VanRuler
Part 2: Porn, What’s The Big Deal? with Dr. Sandra Shachar
Part 1: Porn, What’s The Big Deal? with Dr. Sandra Shachar
BONUS: Why Should I Write Down All My Anger and Hurt?
BONUS: Am I Just Having Fun, or Is This a Full-Blown Addiction?
Discover and Connect with Your Own Inner Voice Again with Lucy Beresford
How to Heal After a Betrayal: Dr. Monique Thompson on Navigating Infidelity
Foundation of Hope: The 12 Steps Way to Healing from Trauma with Dr. Jamie Marich and Dr. Stephen Dansiger
Part 2: Couples, Conflict and Resolution with Dr. Stan Tatkin
Part 1: Couples, Conflict and Resolution with Dr. Stan Tatkin
Part 2: Sex + Porn Addicts Share About Their Healing Journey with Dr Rob, Larry and Jay
Part 1: Sex + Porn Addicts Share About Their Healing Journey with Dr Rob, Larry and Jay
Part 2: Support Groups for Adult Children of Alcoholics with Gary Seidler
Part 1: Support Groups for Adult Children of Alcoholics with Gary Seidler
Part 1: Religion and Spirituality in Recovery with Jason Swilling MDiv
The Road to Forgiveness with Dr. Rob Weiss
Part 2: Dr. Jessica Higgins: How Do You Learn to Forgive?
Part 1: Dr. Jessica Higgins: How Do You Learn to Forgive?
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