Jan and Emily are in their thirties and recently bought a house. During the sales process, Emily discovered a $100k loan that Jan had taken out without her knowledge. To make matters worse, Jan admits he didn’t really have a plan on how to use this money to benefit their lives.
Emily is the higher earner and lets Jan manage their money, adding to the feeling of betrayal that she keeps buried under a calm exterior. They are both supportive and willing to do the work—but Emily’s fear is real and must be processed out in the open.
What happens in a relationship when trust with money is broken in such a profound way? How can you plan ahead or feel secure with your partner's decisions? It’s a path with obstacles, no doubt. Let’s see if we can help Jan and Emily navigate it.
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97. Where Are They Now? Netflix Reunion with Frank
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95. Where Are They Now? Netflix Reunion with Nathalie
94. “We paid off all our debt. Why do I still feel so guilty about money?”
93. Where Are They Now? Netflix Reunion with Amani and Matt
92. “I make $33,000/month. He makes $3,500. When is he going to step it up?” (Part 2)
91. “I helped pay off his $30k+ credit card debt and he didn’t even care” (Part 1)
90. How do I stop feeling guilty about money? Ramit answers your questions
89. “He won’t marry me until I pay off my $15,000 credit card debt”
88. “We own 7 properties. Why can't we pay for groceries?”
87. “We’re in $400,000 of debt, but we can’t say no to our kids”
86. “I make $450,000/year from YouTube. My husband is ashamed he can’t match my success”
85. “I thought she was going to die, so we spent all our money. Now we’re broke”
84. “We spend 98% of what we make—but we refuse to change our lifestyle”
83. “I grew up on food stamps. At 24, I’m about to get paid $215,000 per year”
82. “I’m in $20,000 of debt and she pays for everything. What’s the problem?”
81. “We’re broke—but $55,000 private school tuition is a non-negotiable” (Part 2)
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