Jan and Emily are in their thirties and recently bought a house. During the sales process, Emily discovered a $100k loan that Jan had taken out without her knowledge. To make matters worse, Jan admits he didn’t really have a plan on how to use this money to benefit their lives.
Emily is the higher earner and lets Jan manage their money, adding to the feeling of betrayal that she keeps buried under a calm exterior. They are both supportive and willing to do the work—but Emily’s fear is real and must be processed out in the open.
What happens in a relationship when trust with money is broken in such a profound way? How can you plan ahead or feel secure with your partner's decisions? It’s a path with obstacles, no doubt. Let’s see if we can help Jan and Emily navigate it.
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