f you don't tell me to do it, then it is your fault that it didn't get done. If you tell me to do it, then it is your fault if it doesn't go right.
Have you ever heard these words or experienced these attitudes? Covert narcissists are SO good at dodging responsibility.
I used to wonder why he wouldn’t even choose the restaurant for our dinner. Many years later, I discovered that he wouldn’t choose so that nothing could ever be his fault. Why would he not make the plans for our vacation? But yet he would be so mad at me for the plans I made. He would not make the plans so that nothing would ever be his fault. And yet he would be mad at me because everything was my fault.
He didn’t help do the chores around the house because he didn’t want to do it wrong and make me mad. So he just did nothing! In his mind, then I could not be mad at him because he didn’t do anything wrong.
Blame shifting is a common weapon for a covert narcissist. If you are listening to this today - stop taking the blame for their faults. Stop taking responsibility for their stuff. You are not doing them or yourself any favors. They have their life to live. They have their own to answer for. Don’t let them lay this on your shoulders anymore!!
Their Anger Has NOTHING To Do With YOU
Living with Years of Nitpicking - Special Guest Episode
The EXPERT on EVERYTHING
Long-Term Marriage With a Covert Narcissist
Marriage Counseling with a Covert Narcissist
Everyone Around Me is a Narcissist!
Covert Narcissism and Hyper-Sensitivity
Not All Narcissism is the Same
There is Life Outside of Narcissism
Holiday Time and Narcissistic Supply
Take Back Your Holiday Joy
Is It Okay To Care About Them and Still Walk Away?
Emotional Dumping
You Don’t See It Until You See It
The Ultimate Disconnect Between the Mind and Body
Pseudo Recovery: A Trap set by Covert Narcissists
Surviving the Holidays with a Covert Narcissist
Mirroring: Absorbing Your Identity to Have One of Their Own
Being Told You Are Too Sensitive
Hearing from Members of the CNG Group Retreat, October 2022
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